Is it ever *ok* to cheat? - Page 7

Dagney · 04-30-2007, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I didn't mean to offend anyone who online dates, but I'm just confused about how people can take it seriously.

I'm not offended, was simply trying to explain that the Internet has made things a lot different when it comes to people getting together. The world is a MUCH smaller place these days. I would have never met my husband if it wasn't for the Internet - and we live in the same town. Although we're both interested in many of the same things, I was traveling for work, and he was wrapped up in his own time intensive issues before we got together.
How did I take it seriously? Perhaps it's because I'm beyond the 'quick and dirty hookup' stage of life. BTDT. I wasn't looking for a husband when I met Charles. I was looking for a friend - someone to spend the weekends I was stuck in North Carolina with. He was looking for similar. The relationship grew out of that.

Don't get me wrong, there are a LOT of players out there. Men who lie about being married. Women who lie about their age. Vice Versa. et cetera. You have to have your bullshit meter pegged to HIGH to weed out the goofballs.

xoxoxoBruce · 05-01-2007, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I didn't mean to offend anyone who online dates, but I'm just confused about how people can take it seriously. But I guess I don't know the world of work, soooo meh. I mean I never had a girlfriend until junior year in high school and that took hard social effort for me, a guy no girls had interest in in junior high ever. That is all.
I did create an account at match.com and so did my girlfriend and we tried to see if we would match up but we didn't. That's why I'm like "this is silly."

This is one of those things that won't make sense till you get there. There are many more surprises coming, too.

elSicomoro · 05-01-2007, 07:22 PM

I could never cheat on April, and I don't think April would ever cheat on me. Having said that, if she cheated on me, I don't think I could forgive her, and I suspect she'd be of the same mindset.

If you're in a closed committed relationship and you decide to violate that commitment, that's not okay, IMO. And, barring some highly unusual situations, there are no situations where it would be okay to cheat.

DucksNuts · 05-01-2007, 07:48 PM

Haha,

I just realised, remember I was bagging my gf out for getting involved with a married man???

My situation is a little different (she says NOW), I dont want this guy to leave his wife, and I dont want a relationship with him. He's just a married fuck buddy.

Iggy · 05-02-2007, 10:33 PM

He must be really good in bed. I wouldn't want that kind of baggage and worry if he was just "good" and not "amazingly mind blowing" But that is just me.

Good luck Ducks!

monster · 05-02-2007, 11:09 PM

Many of the Brit expats I know are so because they met their American other-halves online. And they are generally very happy, normal people -but people with cross-cultural peronalities. You know how some people feel they were born into the wrong sex/race body? Some people feel born into the wrong culture. But that's easier to deal with....

DucksNuts · 05-02-2007, 11:51 PM

Thanks Iggy, look seriously, its just a thing of convenience.

He manages a s*wanky hotel, so its easy and it works for both of us...at this stage.

Iggy · 05-03-2007, 12:10 AM

Then it sounds like fun. I do seriously wish you all the best. I wouldn't want any of my fellow dwellars to be unhappy.
You should give us some sordid details...

Perry Winkle · 05-03-2007, 08:12 AM

And pictures and video...

DucksNuts · 05-03-2007, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Iggy

Then it sounds like fun. I do seriously wish you all the best. I wouldn't want any of my fellow dwellars to be unhappy.
You should give us some sordid details...

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Originally Posted by grant

And pictures and video...

I may be able to hook you up after tonnite

05-02-2007, 10:33 PM	#5
Iggy Back and ready to tart up the place Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 850	He must be really good in bed. I wouldn't want that kind of baggage and worry if he was just "good" and not "amazingly mind blowing" But that is just me. Good luck Ducks! __________________ Chock-full of naughty goodness.

05-02-2007, 11:09 PM	#6
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Many of the Brit expats I know are so because they met their American other-halves online. And they are generally very happy, normal people -but people with cross-cultural peronalities. You know how some people feel they were born into the wrong sex/race body? Some people feel born into the wrong culture. But that's easier to deal with.... __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

05-03-2007, 12:10 AM	#8
Iggy Back and ready to tart up the place Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 850	Then it sounds like fun. I do seriously wish you all the best. I wouldn't want any of my fellow dwellars to be unhappy. You should give us some sordid details... __________________ Chock-full of naughty goodness.

05-01-2007, 07:22 PM	#3
elSicomoro Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 12,486	I could never cheat on April, and I don't think April would ever cheat on me. Having said that, if she cheated on me, I don't think I could forgive her, and I suspect she'd be of the same mindset. If you're in a closed committed relationship and you decide to violate that commitment, that's not okay, IMO. And, barring some highly unusual situations, there are no situations where it would be okay to cheat.

05-01-2007, 07:48 PM	#4
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Haha, I just realised, remember I was bagging my gf out for getting involved with a married man??? My situation is a little different (she says NOW), I dont want this guy to leave his wife, and I dont want a relationship with him. He's just a married fuck buddy.

05-02-2007, 11:51 PM	#7
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Thanks Iggy, look seriously, its just a thing of convenience. He manages a s*wanky hotel, so its easy and it works for both of us...at this stage.

05-03-2007, 08:12 AM	#9
Perry Winkle Esnohplad Semaj Ton Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A little south of sanity Posts: 2,259	And pictures and video...

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