What is the ethical thing to do?

[chrisinhouston]

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

your step daughter-in-law sounds like a super beeee-otch (seriously, what a cuntish attitude AND plain-old rude and disrespectful. Who talks to people that way?) and your stepson sounds like he's about 14-15 years old and unable to see things in a larger context.

Maybe you saw the thread I started on under Parenting, "Do you swear or curse or cuss around your offspring" and the post on my stepson referring to everyone in conversations as "dude". Same family and both of them swear directly at their kids mostly in anger. Lots of "stupid fucking moron, asshole, bitch," etc. Sometimes it really shocks me the way they curse at them. Thankfully the kids seem to let it all roll by. Sadly I know that as adults and parents they will probably be more likely to do that with their kids or spouse as they grew up with it.

[Clodfobble]

Originally Posted by chrisinhouston

both of them swear directly at their kids mostly in anger. Lots of "stupid fucking moron, asshole, bitch," etc.

These are bad people. It doesn't matter if they're saying "idiot" or "fucktard" at that point, if they're angrily saying it directly at the kids, then I'm surprised you've put up with them as long as you have. Do what you can for those kids, man. They're going to need your influence.

[orthodoc]

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

These are bad people. It doesn't matter if they're saying "idiot" or "fucktard" at that point, if they're angrily saying it directly at the kids, then I'm surprised you've put up with them as long as you have. Do what you can for those kids, man. They're going to need your influence.

Yes. All that swearing, name-calling, and disparaging is straight-up abuse. If that's the rule in that household, don't let it go by. Those kids will be ruined in all sorts of ways.

Your stepson and dil have sent you a clear message. I'd be removing myself from their vicinity and handing back grandma's care and chauffering to the blood relatives. You don't want to be accused of murdering grandma if she has a heart attack while you're driving her around.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Grandma is his mother-in-law, if he backs away it's on his wife.