Eulogy

[BigV]

I like that poem, Gravdigr. I'd come to your funeral. I'd say goodbye to you as you left the bar, too.

xoB, your point is well made. I agree with it. But for those "social mastubators / networkers", fuck'em. I'm not talking to them, not directly. Those would be the people I don't know. No reason to snub them directly, but I doubt we'll connect much, and I certainly have no inclination to seek out anyone there that I don't already know.

But there will definitely be people there, the living people, who I'll be grieving with. Those are the ones who have my respect that I intend to show. You're right on target about saying goodbye to the dead, too. And I will, also being aware that I'll be watched by my children. Her sisters and her dad and his wife will be there of course. Probably lots of relations more removed from her immediate family and from my attention. From my side if the family, I expect the only other person who might attend would be my mother, and she's a maybe due to her mobility restrictions.

I don't really know who's in charge of the final arrangements, I suspect it's BD. I'll contact her later, probably tonight, and talk to her about it.

Maybe pictures? A slide show? I just don't know. Music? These are the kinds of questions Tink would be, or IMHO, *should* be dealing with. **shrug** I just don't know.

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by BigV

I like that poem, Gravdigr. I'd come to your funeral. I'd say goodbye to you as you left the bar, too.

xoB, your point is well made. I agree with it. But for those "social mastubators / networkers", fuck'em. I'm not talking to them, not directly. Those would be the people I don't know. No reason to snub them directly, but I doubt we'll connect much, and I certainly have no inclination to seek out anyone there that I don't already know.

But there will definitely be people there, the living people, who I'll be grieving with. Those are the ones who have my respect that I intend to show. You're right on target about saying goodbye to the dead, too. And I will, also being aware that I'll be watched by my children. Her sisters and her dad and his wife will be there of course. Probably lots of relations more removed from her immediate family and from my attention. From my side if the family, I expect the only other person who might attend would be my mother, and she's a maybe due to her mobility restrictions.

I don't really know who's in charge of the final arrangements, I suspect it's BD. I'll contact her later, probably tonight, and talk to her about it.

Maybe pictures? A slide show? I just don't know. Music? These are the kinds of questions Tink would be, or IMHO, *should* be dealing with. **shrug** I just don't know.

We did a slide show of my dad with pictures from his childhood to most recent with the soundtrack from one of his favorite TV series, Pennies From Heaven, as background.

Everyone ended up gathering in front of the screen and trading stories and memories, it was actually fairly uplifting for people to see a lot of photos of him smiling and enjoying life. It took a lot of the downer out of the event and focused on the man and his life rather than on his passing.

[infinite monkey]

They did a slideshow at my ex father-in-law's visitation too. It was really nice. I was in 3 shots. The last thing he said to me when he was still aware of his surroundings (at the visitation of a good friend, my ex's best friend) was that I was always like another daughter to him. We got along so well.

Anyway we did picture collages for mom. She had prepared a cd with songs she wanted on it. Wish we'd done a slide show.

[glatt]

My FIL was old school. His funeral is the day after tomorrow, and I made up two big old school foam boards of picture collages. I'm really happy with how they came out. I always thought we didn't have any pictures of him, but once I started digging through our stuff, and then asking around, I got a lot of material. Scanned it all and made prints. His whole life, from baby pics all the way up to a month before he died.

Slide shows are good too, but you always get the one oblivious cousin who stands in front of the projector and blocks projected images from reaching the screen. And what are you going to do, interrupt the conversation he's having with Aunt Alice and ask him to GTFO?

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by glatt

My FIL was old school. His funeral is the day after tomorrow, and I made up two big old school foam boards of picture collages. I'm really happy with how they came out. I always thought we didn't have any pictures of him, but once I started digging through our stuff, and then asking around, I got a lot of material. Scanned it all and made prints. His whole life, from baby pics all the way up to a month before he died.

Slide shows are good too, but you always get the one oblivious cousin who stands in front of the projector and blocks projected images from reaching the screen. And what are you going to do, interrupt the conversation he's having with Aunt Alice and ask him to GTFO?

My dad's family is Irish. They'd be vocal and then brawl if need be.