Eulogy

[BigV]

I really appreciate the support you have all given me, thank you.

xoB, I guess I've volunteered, no one's asked me for anything. But I have something to say about it, ffs, she was my wife for almost twenty years and she's the mother of my children. I'm in. As infinite monkey said, it's about paying respect to the living. And I'm on good terms with most of them, non-speaking terms with some of them, and unacquainted with some of them.

As for the eulogy, I also have in mind to have it written up, in pencil (metaphorically speaking), and give it to Tink for her to see. For that matter, maybe she's got something she wants read out. I don't know; we don't have a lot of contact these days. But she's living and I want to pay my respect to her too. She has my respect, she deserves my respect. But I think this could be an awkward conversation. Even if she says no, and doesn't want to read it or speak to me, that would be fine.

Focusing on my experience with her, how we met, the family we raised, the qualities that attracted me to her and that others have also admired will figure prominently in the work. As you can tell, I'm still sorting and organizing this stuff in my head. I think it will help for me to decide who my audience is, in my mind's eye/voice. Obviously, I won't know everyone who's likely to hear it or read it. But thinking about the people I *do* know who'll be listening... that'd help me focus. It could be more than one person(s). One part for one segment, another part for another segment. Address them, so to speak. Yeah, I'm still thinking about it a lot.