Domestic abuse in the spotlight

anonymous · 10-10-2012, 07:27 AM

Mental and emotional abuse takes tolls that even time doesn't completely alleviate.

Using the past against the person is a good one. You love someone and tell them your secrets, bare your past and your mistakes. Then, days, years, months later during an argument, those things are brought up. Only now this person you loved and trusted more than anyone is using them as a weapon.

Having been victim to some physical abuse and a lot of mental abuse, I can tell you that the deepest and most lasting scars come from the dismantling of your psyche. Now you have someone in your life who not only agrees with your low opinion of yourself, they feed that hate and make you feel that it's a pretty goddam good thing THEY like you, because if anyone else in your life really knew you, they would hate you too.

I don't think I will ever heal, and that's evidenced in so much of my life.

Stormieweather · 10-10-2012, 08:22 AM

When I was young, I thought abuse was only sexual (rape) or physical (hitting). Little did I know...there are many ways to abuse someone. Emotional, verbal, spiritual, and financial are a few of them. Abuse is all about control over another person. The subtle ones are extremely difficult to recover from because they destroy your soul and sense of self...not to mention that other people don't "see" them, so they tend to disbelieve you or minimize your pain.

It has taken a huge amount of work and time for me to overcome the damage and I still have flashbacks and triggers.

And it's been a dozen years since I was last abused.

10-10-2012, 08:22 AM	#2
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	When I was young, I thought abuse was only sexual (rape) or physical (hitting). Little did I know...there are many ways to abuse someone. Emotional, verbal, spiritual, and financial are a few of them. Abuse is all about control over another person. The subtle ones are extremely difficult to recover from because they destroy your soul and sense of self...not to mention that other people don't "see" them, so they tend to disbelieve you or minimize your pain. It has taken a huge amount of work and time for me to overcome the damage and I still have flashbacks and triggers. And it's been a dozen years since I was last abused. __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

10-10-2012, 07:27 AM	#1
anonymous Operations Operative Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: in hiding Posts: 578	Mental and emotional abuse takes tolls that even time doesn't completely alleviate. Using the past against the person is a good one. You love someone and tell them your secrets, bare your past and your mistakes. Then, days, years, months later during an argument, those things are brought up. Only now this person you loved and trusted more than anyone is using them as a weapon. Having been victim to some physical abuse and a lot of mental abuse, I can tell you that the deepest and most lasting scars come from the dismantling of your psyche. Now you have someone in your life who not only agrees with your low opinion of yourself, they feed that hate and make you feel that it's a pretty goddam good thing THEY like you, because if anyone else in your life really knew you, they would hate you too. I don't think I will ever heal, and that's evidenced in so much of my life.

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