Life changing experiences, thought changing experiences

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Originally Posted by Number 2 Pencil

My fiancee (a christian) and I have discussed my life changes and we have come to a point where we respect each other and do not try to change each others beliefs. ... I think it would be difficult if my future in-laws knew I was not christian judging from comments they have made to me in the past.

Sounds like she and her family are pretty serious about religion. This leads me to the question of future kids. Are you OK with your future kids being raised in a religion that you don't believe? If not, is she OK with her kids being raised outside of her religion? This is unfortunately a place where there isn't a lot of room for compromise.

How are you going to explain why you aren't going to church with them without undermining your wife's religion? You can't say that you've decided god's not real. That's like telling a little kid that Santa Claus isn't real. You have to go along with it. Or don't. There's no middle ground.