I'm Jim, and I'm a Compulsive Overeater

[Griff]

Pretty intense stuff LJ. There is a ton of good advice here. I think putting Jinx in charge of the money is important, but it becomes your job not to resent that loss of control. Another idea for a higher power is your position as ancestor. How do you set your children up to live to their potential, so their children can be joyful and productive? The decisions you make now set their expectations. Addressing this issue honestly and openly will give them tools. You are brave enough to do this brother. Keep it simple. Good luck to you both.