Regrets - Page 3

Sundae · 02-23-2009, 03:56 PM

Sorry, I didn't realise what you were referring to in your post.

dar512 · 02-23-2009, 08:18 PM

Sorry. One last thing.

http://www.cartoonstock.com/director..._way_gifts.asp

Sheldonrs · 03-04-2009, 08:51 AM

Love is like a roller coaster. Some people get on it and scream their lungs out and enjoy it. Some people end up covered in puke.

SteveDallas · 03-04-2009, 08:59 AM

Some people just know better and never get on to start with.

Trilby · 03-04-2009, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by SteveDallas

Some people just know better and never get on to start with.

That's not what you said last night...

xoxoxoBruce · 03-04-2009, 12:34 PM

Awww, Angel... in the morning.

glatt · 03-04-2009, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Sheldonrs

Love is like a roller coaster. Some people get on it and scream their lungs out and enjoy it. Some people end up covered in puke.

Reminds me of the humping/puking/eating-it-up dog.

03-04-2009, 07:14 PM

You know what sucks is when you meet that best friend, but he's married. Then time goes by and you get married too. Then more time goes by, and his wife leaves him for another man. More time goes by, and your husband leaves you, but by then your best friend has gotten back together with his wife after a two-year separation, trying to do the right thing for the kids. And the whole time, you both know you love each other and would be perfect together. And the wife is so jealous you're not even allowed to see him, and he can't call you or even text you, because she's afraid he'll do the same to her as she did to him, and it's a comedy of errors, except it's not a comedy at all.

And then, inevitably, you move on and allow yourself to love someone else, and not long after you say your wedding vows, your friend and his wife finally stop trying to make it work, and part ways...

Aliantha · 03-04-2009, 07:18 PM

Well if he means that much to you, why don't you leave your husband? I know that sounds cruel, but seriously, do you really love this guy, or are you just deluding yourself with the romance of it all?

Take a step back and look at the bigger picture mate. You might find that the grass isn't all that much greener on his side of the fence after all.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-04-2009, 10:52 PM

Oh it's greener all right, but catch 22. The other side is always the other side.

Aliantha · 03-04-2009, 10:57 PM

Yep that's true...and I guess it's what I mean anyway.

Life doesn't have to be a soap opera.

03-05-2009, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

Well if he means that much to you, why don't you leave your husband? I know that sounds cruel, but seriously, do you really love this guy, or are you just deluding yourself with the romance of it all?

Take a step back and look at the bigger picture mate. You might find that the grass isn't all that much greener on his side of the fence after all.

The above scenario isn't exactly what's going on in my life, it's just an example of how people can always "miss" that window of opportunity.

I'm currently going through a divorce, and my best friend is going through a reconciliation. The thing is, I truly loved my husband... I wouldn't have left him for my friend. You can love more than one person at once. My husband and I have a child together, as does my friend with his wife. Sometimes you work on what you have, out of principle. I wouldn't love my friend so much if he didn't share that principle. If my husband hadn't left me, I wouldn't see any irony in the scenario at all.

I will probably never marry again, but I also don't want to put my life on hold waiting for my friend to get a divorce. That's pathetic, and borders on pathological. If he gets a divorce and we end up together, I think that it will be the best thing that could happen... but if I meet someone wonderful, I don't want to turn it down because I'm waiting and hoping, you know? Refusing the joy before you for dreams of a better joy is foolish.

Sundae · 03-05-2009, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

Life doesn't have to be a soap opera.

Doesn't have to be... but mine still follows that pattern regardless..

03-05-2009, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

Life doesn't have to be a soap opera.

I often find that people who say truisms like this about something as commonplace as unfulfilled love have been fortunate enough to lead lives that are very free of hardship. Being in love with someone unavailable is hardly soap-opera material... it's just a fact of life that many people experience. That in my case it's a person I happen to be perfectly compatible with is just a source of regret, not a source of drama. I'm 37, and I have kids to raise and work to do... I don't have time to waste on idealization, but at the same time, I know what I feel and why I'm feeling it.

I am a low-drama person. Even my divorce, and my ensuing emotional breakdown, was pretty low-drama. I hope that someday I will fall in love with someone else, and that they'll be as good a match for me as my friend, but that doesn't stop me from wishing things were different right now.

Sundae · 03-05-2009, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiki

I often find that people who say truisms like this about something as commonplace as unfulfilled love have been fortunate enough to lead lives that are very free of hardship.

To be fair to Ali, she's been through the mill herself. It's all here on one thread or another (although history by the time she started posting) but she was single with two sons when she met her husband. She also had some family issues before this.

Not saying you should have known this, just updating you on one of the people you might be referring to (although I accept your post is a generalisation).

02-23-2009, 03:56 PM	#31
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02-23-2009, 08:18 PM	#32
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	Sorry. One last thing. http://www.cartoonstock.com/director..._way_gifts.asp __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

03-04-2009, 08:51 AM	#33
Sheldonrs Master Dwellar Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 4,412	Love is like a roller coaster. Some people get on it and scream their lungs out and enjoy it. Some people end up covered in puke. __________________ Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and the world laughs AT you.

03-04-2009, 12:34 PM	#36
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Awww, Angel... in the morning. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

03-04-2009, 07:18 PM	#39
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Well if he means that much to you, why don't you leave your husband? I know that sounds cruel, but seriously, do you really love this guy, or are you just deluding yourself with the romance of it all? Take a step back and look at the bigger picture mate. You might find that the grass isn't all that much greener on his side of the fence after all. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

03-04-2009, 08:59 AM	#34
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	Some people just know better and never get on to start with.

03-04-2009, 07:14 PM	#38
Tiki Guest Posts: n/a	You know what sucks is when you meet that best friend, but he's married. Then time goes by and you get married too. Then more time goes by, and his wife leaves him for another man. More time goes by, and your husband leaves you, but by then your best friend has gotten back together with his wife after a two-year separation, trying to do the right thing for the kids. And the whole time, you both know you love each other and would be perfect together. And the wife is so jealous you're not even allowed to see him, and he can't call you or even text you, because she's afraid he'll do the same to her as she did to him, and it's a comedy of errors, except it's not a comedy at all. And then, inevitably, you move on and allow yourself to love someone else, and not long after you say your wedding vows, your friend and his wife finally stop trying to make it work, and part ways...

03-04-2009, 10:52 PM	#40
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Oh it's greener all right, but catch 22. The other side is always the other side. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

03-04-2009, 10:57 PM	#41
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Yep that's true...and I guess it's what I mean anyway. Life doesn't have to be a soap opera. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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