Regrets

[Aliantha]

Well if he means that much to you, why don't you leave your husband? I know that sounds cruel, but seriously, do you really love this guy, or are you just deluding yourself with the romance of it all?

Take a step back and look at the bigger picture mate. You might find that the grass isn't all that much greener on his side of the fence after all.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Oh it's greener all right, but catch 22. The other side is always the other side.

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Well if he means that much to you, why don't you leave your husband? I know that sounds cruel, but seriously, do you really love this guy, or are you just deluding yourself with the romance of it all?

Take a step back and look at the bigger picture mate. You might find that the grass isn't all that much greener on his side of the fence after all.

The above scenario isn't exactly what's going on in my life, it's just an example of how people can always "miss" that window of opportunity.

I'm currently going through a divorce, and my best friend is going through a reconciliation. The thing is, I truly loved my husband... I wouldn't have left him for my friend. You can love more than one person at once. My husband and I have a child together, as does my friend with his wife. Sometimes you work on what you have, out of principle. I wouldn't love my friend so much if he didn't share that principle. If my husband hadn't left me, I wouldn't see any irony in the scenario at all.

I will probably never marry again, but I also don't want to put my life on hold waiting for my friend to get a divorce. That's pathetic, and borders on pathological. If he gets a divorce and we end up together, I think that it will be the best thing that could happen... but if I meet someone wonderful, I don't want to turn it down because I'm waiting and hoping, you know? Refusing the joy before you for dreams of a better joy is foolish.