Who does homosexuality hurt?

[classicman]

So basically what you are saying is that you want your parents to support your homosexuality? Is that it? This has virtually nothing to do with college or financial support at all?

Perhaps I'm the only one who missed that :shrug: wouldn't be the first time.

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by classicman

So basically what you are saying is that you want your parents to support your homosexuality? Is that it? This has virtually nothing to do with college or financial support at all?

Perhaps I'm the only one who missed that :shrug: wouldn't be the first time.

I'm not homosexual, never said I was. I don't need to tell my parents' my sexual orientation because I haven't had a significant female partner, I don't plan on telling them unless I do. My parents already support me less for lifestyle choices that they disagree with based on their religious beliefs. I am saying that parents should not pull support from their children because of the child's choice in lifestyle (I.E. homosexuality or different religion.) They can not agree with it, but they should show their child ALL of their love and try to understand. Most parents though are often strong-headed, close minded and believe that they always know best. That is not true, parents do not always know best. Since they choose not to even try to understand the child's particular peculiarities, they instead pull support, or give less.

Originally Posted by classicman

Yup, in fact I just read every one from this thread. Sounds like she is jealous of her older brother or pissed that he got to move back in and now she doesn't. Did her parents know beforehand that she wanted to? I mean before her brother? It seems that moving back in with them is an issue. That, to me would fall under financial support.

I don't think you did or you would know that: yes I did ask, and get approval in MARCH with my parents to move back. My brother asked in OCTOBER.
I specifically said it in post 107: "My parents have now let him move back twice w/o any conditions. I was supposed to move back (finalized it in mar with them), and instead they let him come back(in Oct he decided to get a car instead a of a house loan), therefore I can't."

This was not defined though. Leaves the reader to assume.

What wasn't defined? Types of support? Because, yes, I have had explained it several times, and give several examples. I have also stated a few examples of both my sister and brother getting benefits I didn't. Here is another one if you want: My parent's have always fully supported my sister in her college endeavors(not financially, they don't have the money to do that, but they fully encourage her), when they tell me its a waste for me to go. My sister only graduated High School 6seats higher than I did, so its not that I show a lack of academic acuity. Sister didn't decide what she was goin to college for until 2nd semester senior year. I knew what I wanted to go for up until 2nd semester senior year, their lack of encouragement probably contributed to my change of mind. Turns out, no matter what else I choode, they only have negative things to say about that as well.

Again stressing financial support, yet repeatedly stating that is not what she is referring to.

Like I said Money doesn't equal love. I'm saying that when I NEED financial support, I don't get it, whereas my siblings do. I have done nothing worse than my older brother (I will say I don't mind my sister getting more, she is a saint) and yet he gets more. I have stated non-financial reasons, like them not letting me move back home. Yes its to save me money, but it wouldn't cost them (I have already said I'm paying rent). Them not supporting my want to go to college is another non-financial example I've cited. The financial reasons are just the more tangible and therefore easier to explain. Most of my issues with my parents is lack of financial because they don't believe I deserve it, which to me shows a lack of emotional support.

This is what they are not doing? Well that begs a number of questions - Does she see them on Christmas and/or her birthday? Is this common practice in their family? Do they have the money? Do they consider cards and such a waste? I don't know these people at all or what their lives are like. I'm only basing my opinions on one side and although I feel bad for her that she is not happy, there is just too much information missing for me to draw any useful conclusions at all.

MTP, I am very sorry for your situation. I wish it were different and you could all get what you want/need from each other.

No, that I never said they were/weren't doing any of those things. Those were just examples. You read into the wrong things classic.

[classicman]

ok - sorry MTP, I guess I just don't get it. I'm sorry that your parents are being assholes. Parents tend to do that from time to time. Its just in my experience, they are typically trying to do it for a reason or reasons unknown or not understood by the child. I guess yours are just treating you differently for some unknown reason.

FWIW, My oldest brother is the golden child - he can do no wrong. I know that he is my fathers favorite and he treats him differently than he treats the rest of us, especially me. That has no bearing on the fact that my father still loves me. I was the youngest and mostly all the money for college was gone when it was my turn. I had to pay for it myself.

Sorry about your situation. Hope things improve for all of you.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Like I said Money doesn't equal love.

Absolutely. Which is why if you don't get any from your parents does not mean they love you less, regardless of you choices in life, gay, straight, or whatever....