It is so hard to swallow

wolf · 08-09-2007, 01:43 PM

Dude, reading your girlfriend's email and even worse, RESPONDING to even one piece of it, is seriously fucked up.

Seriously.

Be prepared for her to dump your ass so hard it will end up around your shoulders.

kerosene · 08-09-2007, 06:26 PM

That's kind of like reading someone's diary.

I dumped a guy for that when I was 20. I also didn't speak to my mother for a while for that when I was a teenager. Now, I would let my husband read it, but only because I don't fear his judgement. He never has, though.

Hime · 08-10-2007, 03:23 PM

Most of my friends are men, not sure why. Some of them say "I love you" to me, in a friendly way, like "sure you're scatterbrained, but that's why we love you!" But I do have one male friend who frequently makes comments to me that my husband is uncomfortable with, such as asking for naked pictures, asking to give me a massage, things like that. I understand my husband's concern because if he had a female friend who talked to him like that, I would feel jealous and wonder why he wanted to be friends with her. However, we basically deal with it by communicating and letting each other handle our own lives. Since my husband let me know that this friend's requests bother him, now when the friend gets into that territory I let him know that it wouldn't be fair to my husband for me to participate in that kind of conversation. My husband wouldn't confront one of my friends; he would trust me to set the limits that we've agreed on.

And honestly, some people want their SO to see them as "theirs." We are generally referred to as submissive. I don't know if that term fits FC's girlfriend, but it is entirely possible.

freshnesschronic · 08-10-2007, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Hime

such as asking for naked pictures

wtf kind of friend is this!?

queequeger · 08-28-2007, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Hime

such as asking for naked pictures,

Oh my lord. My fiance (is it fiancee for a woman?) agreed to send some nudie pics to a male friend before we were dating... So the other day we're on the phone and she asks me if I'm ok with that (she hadn't gotten around to it and now the friend brought it up again). Well, of course my first reaction was GuhguhguhWHA!? And all the male bluster entailed. It didn't help that they had almost had/tried to have sex once (again, before dating).

I was pissed for her even asking. But, then I changed my mind. I don't know why, maybe because she's sending them to me, too (we're not co-located, so it's a lonely endeavor, this engagement) .. maybe because they're 'tasteful' i.e. no 'money shots'. I would call it swallowing my pride, but I think what really did it was I have no fears whatsoever, no matter how small, of her leaving me or having any feelings for this guy or others. So in the end I don't care.

I just thought it was funny because it caught me so off guard, and here it happened to someone else. No massages or anything, though.

queequeger · 08-28-2007, 12:40 PM

Oh my god, I just watched that video. Laughed til I cried, two thumbs.

08-09-2007, 01:43 PM	#1
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Dude, reading your girlfriend's email and even worse, RESPONDING to even one piece of it, is seriously fucked up. Seriously. Be prepared for her to dump your ass so hard it will end up around your shoulders. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

08-28-2007, 12:40 PM	#6
queequeger Hypercharismatic Telepathical Knight Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: The armpit of the Universe... Augusta, GA Posts: 365	Oh my god, I just watched that video. Laughed til I cried, two thumbs. __________________ Hoocha, hoocha, hoocha... lobster.

08-09-2007, 06:26 PM	#2
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	That's kind of like reading someone's diary. I dumped a guy for that when I was 20. I also didn't speak to my mother for a while for that when I was a teenager. Now, I would let my husband read it, but only because I don't fear his judgement. He never has, though.

08-10-2007, 03:23 PM	#3
Hime Extraordinary Machine Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Outside of Washington, DC Posts: 307	Most of my friends are men, not sure why. Some of them say "I love you" to me, in a friendly way, like "sure you're scatterbrained, but that's why we love you!" But I do have one male friend who frequently makes comments to me that my husband is uncomfortable with, such as asking for naked pictures, asking to give me a massage, things like that. I understand my husband's concern because if he had a female friend who talked to him like that, I would feel jealous and wonder why he wanted to be friends with her. However, we basically deal with it by communicating and letting each other handle our own lives. Since my husband let me know that this friend's requests bother him, now when the friend gets into that territory I let him know that it wouldn't be fair to my husband for me to participate in that kind of conversation. My husband wouldn't confront one of my friends; he would trust me to set the limits that we've agreed on. And honestly, some people want their SO to see them as "theirs." We are generally referred to as submissive. I don't know if that term fits FC's girlfriend, but it is entirely possible.

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