It is so hard to swallow
 

your pride. Well, at least for me. That is some of the hardest shit to do in the entire world. But from what I've heard (and been advised) it will make the panoramic view of the issue better and improved, based on the circumstances. But damn it tastes so bad and burns all the way down your throat.

Most people have trouble swallowing their pride. I wouldn't worry too much about it if I were you fresh. You'll get used to it.

Well good on you. I know my life would be a lot better if certain someones would swallow their prides.

good luck in your endevour, whatever it may be

The taste never gets any better, but you will get called an arsehole a lot less in your life if you learn to deal with it.

This is another of those threads where I was expecting something very different.....

you mean like this, of course:

That's more what I had in mind yes...though I always think , y'know...a spoonful of sugar...

or some pineapple

I don't suck cock.

Thats what I ws saying Fresh - I just did it a little more - delicately.

I wasn't thinking last night. I truly didn't mean for this thread to become a jizz gulping one but last nite I wasn't thinking straight because I actually swallowed my pride which turned my world upside down for a little bit. It was just one of those thread titles that leads into a deeper meaning but yeah, I just set myself up bad. Continue with the ingrediants if you want to.

Tell us more of the story fresh.

Young Padowan messed up last nite.

My girlfriend is leaving for LA today and will be gone for two weeks in the Miss Chinese Cosmos Pageant/(bad attempt at reality show) http://fun.utvchina.com/Bw/ (the bandwidth on the site sucks so it might not even load at times).

I was on her facebook (www.facebook.com) about to change her status to something like "In LA rockin' the vote!" When I surf I usually have 3 or four tabs up as I wait for other tabs to load. So when I eventually got back to the facebook tab I forgot I was on her name signed on so I checked "my" inbox. Turns out there was a long 60 replies message b/w her and a friend at work, a dude. It was about how he tells her that he likes this other colleague and how he trusts her so much, I don't know everything cause I didn't read most of it just brushed through it. The last thing he said was "...Oh I love you chika. your the best...." She had apparently agreed to do something for him to help set him up with the other colleague.

That is unacceptable. Very unacceptable. You don't even joke with things like that. He has known her for less than two months and I don't care if he was joking that is unacceptable because if it had been with someone who's more of a jerk than me he woulda had bigger problems. Maybe my reasoning is sexist (Shawnee, anyone?) but I do not find it ok for a guy to say that to a girl. Nope. Don't see it as acceptable. It's different for a girl to say "oh I luv you guys!" because well, that's what girls do. Ok generality, at least a LOT of the girls I know. For a guy to say that, no it just doesn't happen nor IMO should it happen. For a guy who's not a boyfriend to say he loves a girl, no less a girl he met at work and known less than two months. Uh uh. This guy crossed the line and I am very uncomfortable with him saying that.

I messaged him back on facebook through her account (I couldn't directly because I wasn't his "friend") and told him to back the fuck up and leave his girly shit to himself (sorry Shawnee). My girl didn't like this. He messages me and says "I'm not scared of you" and all that tough shit high school guy act and says "you know where I work you got a problem come see me." So I accept his offer to fight and respond "You make the date and place. Be there." I tell her that he wanted to duke it out and she said I shouldn't have provoked him in the first place and I shoulda talked to her about it first if it made me feel uncomfortable.

I shoulda done that. But I can't take it back. I talked to my friend last nite for an hour and my friend told me I was a dumbass too. So I swallowed my pride and messaged him "tonite ive decided that i value my relationship with my girl more than takin on some immature high school cronie. I am still not comfortable with u sayin shit like that to her so dont do it again. ur a dude why u sayin u love a girl u known less than 2 months even if ur jokin u dont joke on shit like that, ur a fool and that shit will get u in trouble in different situations. let this shit alone now if u know whats good for u. if u want to discuss this in real life im more than happy to explain whats going to happen, i know where u work remember u told me." Sorry for the text speak, it's how I communicate when I'm not down here.

But yeah I had a real hard time getting myself to own up for Pandora's box that I opened (as my friend told me) because yeah, I got pride. He's totally gonna think I'm a pussy too, when I could easily handle him (not bragging, but a karate black belt is respectable, ain't it?). That's why I said it in the sternest way possible. Plus in his response to me said I'm not afraid of your 4 foot ass. I'm a respectful 5'6 1/2". But I swallowed and tried to make things better for me and her.

Ugh, you can say "I love you" to a girl without going out with them.

I do it all the time when I'm joking around.


But at least you tried to make things right, which I give you credit. If it comes back up you can just say you were in a really bad mood and you regret saying that and it will be fine since the guy wasn't trying to put a move on your girl.

I seriously wouldn't get worried about what he said and you need to be careful with that sort of thing because what you might find unacceptable, someone else may find completely normal.

So I change my view on unacceptable because he or you think it's fine? I honestly don't care what he finds normal/acceptable because it's my girlfriend he said it to and I am not ok with it, joking or not.