08/30/02: A Metaphor For Moving On

[juju]

Originally posted by Urbane Guerrilla
Sounds to me like you haven't had much practice making friends. I thought I was like that myself, until I got into sales work. I discovered that, owing to having moved fairly frequently as a child, and very frequently as a military man, I was actually very efficient at making friends. I had just been satisfied with making a small circle of friends and acquaintances. If I were just to keep at being friendly, and being interesting by being interested, I could have lots and lots of friends and aquaintances by just talking to people.

I think I see what you're saying. You had the ability to make friends, you just chose not to use it very often. Perhaps that is the case with me? I'd like to think it is.

I should also note that i'm not wallowing in depression, or anything like that. I had a great day today. It's just that i'm really really overanalytical about my life. Some people plan for their careers, their vacations, etc. I plan for myself. I ask myself hard questions that I think need answers.

Originally posted by Urbane Guerrilla
The really enduring friendships come from doing the really fulfilling things (whichever things those are) in the company of others who find fulfillment in the same things.

I can't help but notice that most people in my college aren't as obsessed with computers as I am. A friend of mine from work was telling me that she doesn't like being around people who aren't passionate about something. This rings true with me, too, I think. They don't necessarily have to be computer people, but I do enjoy being around people who get excited about something. I have met a couple of people at the university who love computers as much as I do. If I were smart, i'd get to know them.