Step-life

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble

My role as a stepmom is a little different than yours because biomom is certifiably insane, and it's better for everyone, including the kids, if there are no attempts to co-parent or even communicate beyond basic information about what's going on with the kids.

Actually, this is pretty much exactly how it is, here. right down to the manipulation and trying to make Dad look like a bad guy. We try to take the high road as much as possible. The most frustrating thing she does is try to convince sd that she (sd) does not want to be here.

Bruce, you may be on to something. They probably do pick up on my tendency to overcompensate. And I know that is not good for bio-son, but I am probably over-obsessing.

Monster, the biggest issue I have is this religious group her mom belongs to. In fact, all of my inlaws and her relatives are part of this (scarily close to cultishness.) She will absolutely not allow her to cut her hair, wear jewelry, etc. But that isn't the problem. Where I get annoyed is when the obvious judgment comes in. SD doesn't see it, because it is so much a part of her other lifestyle, but it makes me want to cry. These people are so absolute. They treat people outside their group with so little respect. I still try to take the high road with this, too, but it is definitely heartbreaking to watch as this unfolds.

Thanks to all of you adding to this thread. Your responses are truly giving me perspective and even some relief.