Loneliness is about twice as dangerous as obesity - Page 6

footfootfoot · 06-06-2014, 09:25 AM

Cuntegonda was a character in Candide, IIRC.

sexobon · 06-06-2014, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble

That sounded a little cunty...

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

Clod, how could you be so mean to sexo?

Oh wait a minute...he deserved it! lol

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Originally Posted by lumberjim

A lot cunty.

Ha. My phone learned cunty.

Mutiny on the Cunty.

footfootfoot · 06-06-2014, 10:13 AM

Coward of the Cunty

sexobon · 06-06-2014, 10:28 AM

Dudley Do-Right of the Cunties

Gravdigr · 06-06-2014, 11:10 AM

ACM - Academy of Cunty Music

No Cunty For Old Men

footfootfoot · 06-06-2014, 11:39 AM

Cuntytime lemonade

Scarborough Fair/Cunticle

sexobon · 06-06-2014, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Gravdigr

ACM - Academy of Cunty Music ...

She's a little bit cunty, he's a little bit cock and roll.

Flint · 06-06-2014, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

Is there any other reason besides the kids that you're staying for?

Yes, I've been unemployed since I moved up here. I was doing contract work prior to making the final move up here (wife and kids were already here in the house I was paying for, so the kids could get acclimated to Portland before the start of their first school year here). I've just now found a new full time job, making a lot of money like I always had before. I start my new job next week--this is literally the first time in six months I haven't been trapped in a shitty situation with no options.

glatt · 06-06-2014, 02:15 PM

Ah, next week. I was under the impression you had already started the new job.

So do you have plans for what you intend to do next? Have you glanced at the real estate section of the paper to see the apartments? Or however you find apartments these days?

DanaC · 06-06-2014, 02:27 PM

Light at the end of the tunnel, Flint.

God, what a total headfuck this whole thing sounds. I'm glad you're heading hopefully into calmer waters now m'dear.

Big Sarge · 06-06-2014, 05:01 PM

I'd be looking for an attorney

Flint · 06-07-2014, 09:05 AM

If children are so resilient like everyone says, then why do I remember feeling so much turmoil, confusion and divided loyalties for years after my own parents were divorced? And trust issues which not only continue to this day, but are completely validated--people ARE selfish assholes who will do shitty things. So if children are so resilient, what does that mean--they'll learn sooner that the trials of life leave you with defining scars?

My son is like me--he just wants people to get along. He wants everyone to be okay, in a situation where that isn't possible. I know how he feels because I see it, and I remember feeling that way. My daughter is more emotionally mature, but if she is imprinting her stability on this situation, my concern is that she will have no idea what a relationship is--are people just pawns to be manipulated to suit your own purposes? Why not, if happiness is so easy to achieve by crawling over the backs of people you've betrayed?

Once I get free from this situation, the kids will see me being happy and stable and awesome. And they'll see their mother and I trying to cooperate and respect each other. The disingenuous aspect of this is that I will be compelled to treat someone with respect, out of necessity, whose actions haven't been honorable. I didn't make the decisions that created this situation, but I'll be the one carrying the burden. Picking up the pieces and making the best of a shitty situation--but what lessons will the children take away from this? And how, exactly, does that magical resilience I've heard so much about protect them from being fucked up by this?

Griff · 06-07-2014, 09:19 AM

It doesn't, kids are all mind fucked by their parents to some degree. Most kids are able to live their own lives eventually though. The danger is in what they come to believe is normal. You'll need to be pretty direct with them as they get older that this situation should not be repeated. I work with kids who are the product of multi-generational poverty and am shocked by what their parents think is normal.

lumberjim · 06-07-2014, 09:26 AM

They will feel sadness and confusion. They will be changed by this change. And they will survive. Resilient, not impervious.

You'll do what you must to mitigate the negative effects. They will get a glimpse of the bad side of relationships. They'll know you're suffering, and they'll see you come through it.
They will be ok. Because you'll both still love them. It really just is what it is for them. It's not like they've been raised in a family that stayed together before, and can compare this reality to that. It's not the optimal situation, but they're safe and loved.

Big Sarge · 06-07-2014, 05:31 PM

Wait.....what if they look at the friend as the father figure and Flint is trying to take them away from them??

06-06-2014, 09:25 AM	#76
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Cuntegonda was a character in Candide, IIRC. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

06-06-2014, 10:13 AM	#78
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Coward of the Cunty __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

06-06-2014, 11:10 AM	#80
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	ACM - Academy of Cunty Music No Cunty For Old Men __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

06-06-2014, 11:39 AM	#81
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Cuntytime lemonade Scarborough Fair/Cunticle __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs Last edited by footfootfoot; 06-06-2014 at 12:07 PM.

06-06-2014, 05:01 PM	#86
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	I'd be looking for an attorney __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

06-06-2014, 10:28 AM	#79
sexobon I love it when a plan comes together. Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 9,793	Dudley Do-Right of the Cunties

06-06-2014, 02:15 PM	#84
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Ah, next week. I was under the impression you had already started the new job. So do you have plans for what you intend to do next? Have you glanced at the real estate section of the paper to see the apartments? Or however you find apartments these days?

06-07-2014, 09:05 AM	#87
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	If children are so resilient like everyone says, then why do I remember feeling so much turmoil, confusion and divided loyalties for years after my own parents were divorced? And trust issues which not only continue to this day, but are completely validated--people ARE selfish assholes who will do shitty things. So if children are so resilient, what does that mean--they'll learn sooner that the trials of life leave you with defining scars? My son is like me--he just wants people to get along. He wants everyone to be okay, in a situation where that isn't possible. I know how he feels because I see it, and I remember feeling that way. My daughter is more emotionally mature, but if she is imprinting her stability on this situation, my concern is that she will have no idea what a relationship is--are people just pawns to be manipulated to suit your own purposes? Why not, if happiness is so easy to achieve by crawling over the backs of people you've betrayed? Once I get free from this situation, the kids will see me being happy and stable and awesome. And they'll see their mother and I trying to cooperate and respect each other. The disingenuous aspect of this is that I will be compelled to treat someone with respect, out of necessity, whose actions haven't been honorable. I didn't make the decisions that created this situation, but I'll be the one carrying the burden. Picking up the pieces and making the best of a shitty situation--but what lessons will the children take away from this? And how, exactly, does that magical resilience I've heard so much about protect them from being fucked up by this? __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

06-07-2014, 09:19 AM	#88
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	It doesn't, kids are all mind fucked by their parents to some degree. Most kids are able to live their own lives eventually though. The danger is in what they come to believe is normal. You'll need to be pretty direct with them as they get older that this situation should not be repeated. I work with kids who are the product of multi-generational poverty and am shocked by what their parents think is normal. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

06-07-2014, 09:26 AM	#89
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	They will feel sadness and confusion. They will be changed by this change. And they will survive. Resilient, not impervious. You'll do what you must to mitigate the negative effects. They will get a glimpse of the bad side of relationships. They'll know you're suffering, and they'll see you come through it. They will be ok. Because you'll both still love them. It really just is what it is for them. It's not like they've been raised in a family that stayed together before, and can compare this reality to that. It's not the optimal situation, but they're safe and loved. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

06-07-2014, 05:31 PM	#90
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Wait.....what if they look at the friend as the father figure and Flint is trying to take them away from them?? __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

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