Loneliness is about twice as dangerous as obesity

Undertoad · 06-01-2014, 11:23 AM

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You can be in the best shape of your life, high IQ, command an exorbitant salary, live in the center of popular culture, and

She always admired big apple carts, so you figured she loves apple carts. So you set up a really amazing apple cart... the biggest apple cart you could build, and you filled it to the brim with apples. Now it turns out she admired full apple carts because of how the apples would fly everywhere when she pushed them over. Wow, how the apples fly.

(I don't know anything about your relationship, and whether this analogy applies at all, but I have seen this particular drama play out a few times)

xoxoxoBruce · 06-01-2014, 12:52 PM

Well, if you didn't think so much of yourself, think you're fitter, smarter, worth more, coolest kid on the block who someone else should idolize and be thankful for any attention from you, it might not happen.
If you dump the superiority complex, realize you're just one of millions, be thankful to be treated as an equal and eager to treat them as an equal rather than a minion or pet, it might not happen.

Gravdigr · 06-01-2014, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Well, if you didn't think so much of yourself, think you're fitter, smarter, worth more, coolest kid on the block who someone else should idolize and be thankful for any attention from you, it might not happen.
If you dump the superiority complex, realize you're just one of millions, be thankful to be treated as an equal and eager to treat them as an equal rather than a minion or pet, it might not happen.

Dayum. Who was that aimed at? Just use a knife next time...

xoxoxoBruce · 06-01-2014, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Gravdigr

Dayum. Who was that aimed at? Just use a knife next time...

Not aimed like a knife, strewn like Tactical Road Stars.

Flint · 06-02-2014, 12:26 AM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Well, if ...

No, it's a list of positive qualities I can, with effort, remind / convince myself of (and do not follow the entrenched narrative of the last six months, hearing and believing only bad things about myself)--fitness level, IQ, and annual income are concrete attributes which can be observed and measured. The subjective opinion of whether Portland is a 'stylish' town does not refer to myself at all, but to, as I said, where I live. The smart reader may have picked up on this list as being 'things that are supposed to make you happy but really do not have that ability'

How about consider that psychoanalyzing a situation regarding which you know literally none of the circumstances, you aren't winning any awards for 'best speculative leaps which reveal the hidden message' --you're just being insensitive to someone who is obviously in pain. It's not 'tough love' if you're just piggybacking a hunch on top of --what? an old grudge? You don't like someone, so kick them while they're down? That just seems like being a dickhead.

:ahem: in my opinion.

xoxoxoBruce · 06-02-2014, 01:55 AM

Ah, the Tactical Road Stars worked. We have case of the shoe fits perhaps.

The list of "observed and measured" don't mean jack shit in a relationship, and that's always been your handicap. Couples can be happy or not, from sleeping in a cardboard box in the park to the best palaces. When it works it's because they have genuine apathy for each other, genuine respect and show it every day. You'll have to wait because I'm being awesome dear, doesn't cut it.

Hurting? I know, I've been there done that... more than once. But I was always aware I wasn't "betrayed", that would put the blame elsewhere. That's never the case, there's always enough blame to go around. Until you understand and accept that, you'll never heal.

footfootfoot · 06-04-2014, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

She always admired big apple carts, so you figured she loves apple carts. So you set up a really amazing apple cart... the biggest apple cart you could build, and you filled it to the brim with apples. Now it turns out she admired full apple carts because of how the apples would fly everywhere when she pushed them over. Wow, how the apples fly.

(I don't know anything about your relationship, and whether this analogy applies at all, but I have seen this particular drama play out a few times)

Fucking-eh. Words up, man.

06-01-2014, 12:52 PM	#2
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Well, if you didn't think so much of yourself, think you're fitter, smarter, worth more, coolest kid on the block who someone else should idolize and be thankful for any attention from you, it might not happen. If you dump the superiority complex, realize you're just one of millions, be thankful to be treated as an equal and eager to treat them as an equal rather than a minion or pet, it might not happen. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

06-02-2014, 01:55 AM	#6
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Ah, the Tactical Road Stars worked. We have case of the shoe fits perhaps. The list of "observed and measured" don't mean jack shit in a relationship, and that's always been your handicap. Couples can be happy or not, from sleeping in a cardboard box in the park to the best palaces. When it works it's because they have genuine apathy for each other, genuine respect and show it every day. You'll have to wait because I'm being awesome dear, doesn't cut it. Hurting? I know, I've been there done that... more than once. But I was always aware I wasn't "betrayed", that would put the blame elsewhere. That's never the case, there's always enough blame to go around. Until you understand and accept that, you'll never heal. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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