Going Home... I Wish. - Page 5

xoxoxoBruce · 04-07-2007, 03:22 PM

And you didn't think she'd find out about your Parisian crush. That sucks big time but not unusual for long distance relationships. Don't be looking for someplace to pin the blame. It's not your fault, or hers, or your folks, or the US Government. It's just the way it works, despite the fact you feel like somebody stomped on your balls, broke your guitar and gave you the flu.

On the up side, you'll have a much better appreciation for the blues and a better grasp for the lyrics of half the songs ever recorded. Time will help and in the mean time get on over to the pluckers.

Clodfobble · 04-07-2007, 05:16 PM

Sorry to hear that, Ibram.

Don't be too much of a stranger, we're pretty good at helping out the emotionally destroyed around here.

TheMercenary · 04-08-2007, 10:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ibram

I go home to visit my girlfriend... and she dumps me. Fun.

I may be a little out of it for a while, guys. Bear with me.

Sorry to hear that mate.

Ibby · 04-08-2007, 12:09 PM

Actually bruce I do blame myself... For having a cock, for being a guy.

And you thought I had gender identity issues before...

Griff · 04-08-2007, 06:01 PM

Ouch man, that was a cold homecoming. Write a song and eventually move along. good luck

Ibby · 04-08-2007, 08:07 PM

Nah, I'm still her best friend and we're still on good terms; it was about as 'mutual' as getting dumped can get. I'm the one who encouraged her to come out of the closet, because the closet isnt a nice place to be. I just want her to be happy. She's still really upset about it, possibly more so than I am, and so shes not doing so great (and really, really sick to boot - its between strep, lyme disease, and fucking lupus at this point)... but as soon as she starts feeling a little better about it I may too. But I know I don't really want to move on - not in a stupid pathetic live-in-the-past way, but because I want to be there for her always, because I always want her to be happy, because being her best friend with a crush is better than moving on and losing her.

Beestie · 04-08-2007, 08:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ibram

...But I know I don't really want to move on - not in a stupid pathetic live-in-the-past way, but because I want to be there for her always, because I always want her to be happy, because being her best friend with a crush is better than moving on and losing her.

Do what works for you but I never thought much of that idea.

Don't make an emotional commitment to someone who won't make one back. Its just not a good idea. Its like riding in the trunk.

breakingnews · 04-08-2007, 09:07 PM

Really sorry to hear it bud.

But that is the way the cookie crumbles. Growing pains - you'll look back in a couple years and laugh, followed immediately by a bit of tingling nostalgia.

Ibby · 04-08-2007, 09:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beestie

Do what works for you but I never thought much of that idea.

Don't make an emotional commitment to someone who won't make one back. Its just not a good idea. Its like riding in the trunk.

But I mean, we're still like, unbelievably close, and she said herself that it might be, that she hopes it is, a "phase". I personally say its probably not, but... we're still best, best friends, and she still loves me, just 'not in... that way...'.

Even if it is the wrong, uh, course of action... it's the one I want to take, for her.

xoxoxoBruce · 04-08-2007, 10:53 PM

So you really want to be a lesbian?

Ibby · 04-08-2007, 11:06 PM

Wait, what?

I wouldn't want to be monosexual of any flavor. I'll never understand monosexuality.
Note that that doesnt mean monogamy.

Where's that even come from?

xoxoxoBruce · 04-08-2007, 11:17 PM

You said you were hampered by having a dick and the chick came out of the closet.

Ibby · 04-08-2007, 11:59 PM

Yes, that is what happened. I still dont understand what you meant, but... okay then.

Clodfobble · 04-09-2007, 01:28 PM

He's just saying that if you were a lesbian, then she'd still want to be your girlfriend.

DanaC · 04-09-2007, 01:32 PM

Ibram, I think you are probably one of the most emotionally mature youngsters i have encountered. A lot of lads would have turned away from her entirely at this point and I think it's to your credit that you are still willing to be her friend. She's obviously going through a lot right now and I would hazard a guess that your friendship is probably one of the most valuable things she has.

04-07-2007, 03:22 PM	#61
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	And you didn't think she'd find out about your Parisian crush. That sucks big time but not unusual for long distance relationships. Don't be looking for someplace to pin the blame. It's not your fault, or hers, or your folks, or the US Government. It's just the way it works, despite the fact you feel like somebody stomped on your balls, broke your guitar and gave you the flu. On the up side, you'll have a much better appreciation for the blues and a better grasp for the lyrics of half the songs ever recorded. Time will help and in the mean time get on over to the pluckers. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

04-07-2007, 05:16 PM	#62
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Sorry to hear that, Ibram. Don't be too much of a stranger, we're pretty good at helping out the emotionally destroyed around here. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

04-08-2007, 12:09 PM	#64
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Actually bruce I do blame myself... For having a cock, for being a guy. And you thought I had gender identity issues before... __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

04-08-2007, 06:01 PM	#65
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Ouch man, that was a cold homecoming. Write a song and eventually move along. good luck __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

04-08-2007, 08:07 PM	#66
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Nah, I'm still her best friend and we're still on good terms; it was about as 'mutual' as getting dumped can get. I'm the one who encouraged her to come out of the closet, because the closet isnt a nice place to be. I just want her to be happy. She's still really upset about it, possibly more so than I am, and so shes not doing so great (and really, really sick to boot - its between strep, lyme disease, and fucking lupus at this point)... but as soon as she starts feeling a little better about it I may too. But I know I don't really want to move on - not in a stupid pathetic live-in-the-past way, but because I want to be there for her always, because I always want her to be happy, because being her best friend with a crush is better than moving on and losing her. __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

04-08-2007, 09:07 PM	#68
breakingnews Q_Q Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: somewhere in between Posts: 995	Really sorry to hear it bud. But that is the way the cookie crumbles. Growing pains - you'll look back in a couple years and laugh, followed immediately by a bit of tingling nostalgia. __________________ Gone crazy, be back never.

04-08-2007, 10:53 PM	#70
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	So you really want to be a lesbian? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

04-08-2007, 11:06 PM	#71
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Wait, what? I wouldn't want to be monosexual of any flavor. I'll never understand monosexuality. Note that that doesnt mean monogamy. Where's that even come from? __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

04-08-2007, 11:17 PM	#72
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	You said you were hampered by having a dick and the chick came out of the closet. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

04-08-2007, 11:59 PM	#73
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Yes, that is what happened. I still dont understand what you meant, but... okay then. __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

04-09-2007, 01:28 PM	#74
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	He's just saying that if you were a lesbian, then she'd still want to be your girlfriend. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

04-09-2007, 01:32 PM	#75
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Ibram, I think you are probably one of the most emotionally mature youngsters i have encountered. A lot of lads would have turned away from her entirely at this point and I think it's to your credit that you are still willing to be her friend. She's obviously going through a lot right now and I would hazard a guess that your friendship is probably one of the most valuable things she has.

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