My kid is getting shafted - Page 4

Aliantha · 01-17-2012, 11:37 PM

Regardless of who started it, if kid A was involved and admitted it, I don't see why him being punished is being shafted. He still did something wrong, even if he was just following another kids lead.

The fact that kid B didn't get punished really isn't anything to do with it IMO. Yeah it sucks, but as a parent, i think the lesson you have to try and teach is that if you do something wrong you get punished. There's consequences. Just because B got away with it shouldn't have any bearing. As the parent it's up to you to teach your kid a better way of doing things no matter what other kids are up to, or what they get pinned with.

Yeah I know I'm late to the party, but after reading the thread, I just wanted to say a couple of things. One other thing I wanted to talk about was the fact that I'm sure as a parent you agree that your child should have been punished for his actions, but you're not happy that he's taken the whole blame. I just think it's really important that you don't talk about the sour grapes you feel in front of the child. He needs to learn to man up and be responsible for his actions regardless of what happens to the other kids. You as a parent are responsible for making sure he gets that message, and if he hears you talking about how unfair it all is, what lesson do you think he'll take from that?

it · 01-18-2012, 12:24 AM

for the most part i am with ali on this one, and even though its hard to teach him about actions having consequances when he see's his friend not having them, there's a much more important lesson there: life isn't fair, and other then our own wishful thinking there's nothing in the world the says its supposed to be. we don't all get what "we deserve", bad or good. there is absolutely no point in perparing a kid for an idealized world that doesn't exist - you prepare him for this world and no other.

Gravdigr · 01-18-2012, 01:32 PM

I do not have children.

I hope I never do.

I do not like children.

I did not like myself when I was a children.

Sundae · 01-18-2012, 01:39 PM

I do not have children.

The odds on me having children now are slim to none.

I love children, but do not seem to have the correct programming when it comes to adoring babies. I always wanted kittens.

I didn't like myself as a child, but then I was given very little chance to.

it · 01-18-2012, 09:11 PM

i had a stepson until receantly.

children in the future? biological maybe, probably... but i'm never having a relationship that serious with a single mother ever again.

when i view a kid as mine - my lifelong project to make him into the best person he can be - i'm all there. in which case tolerating other people kids on playdates and birthdays is a necessry evil to help your kid develop social skills.

i loved myself as a child, but that's a very common characteristic of the babyboomer's children.

Flint · 01-18-2012, 10:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

I didn't like myself as a child, but then I was given very little chance to.

Ah! You were raised properly--in the traditional fashion. Kidding.

monster · 01-18-2012, 10:44 PM

Didn't like myself as a child either, and people were surprised when I got pregnant. In a rude way. Doen't anyone get that I just don't like other people's children? My own are kind of cool. Hebe was the first baby I ever held.

Sundae · 01-19-2012, 10:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint

Ah! You were raised properly--in the traditional fashion. Kidding.

You're right though!

xoxoxoBruce · 01-19-2012, 09:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gravdigr

I do not have children.

I hope I never do.

I do not like children.

I did not like myself when I was a children.

You're missing out on how wonderful they are...

Bar-B-Qued.

01-17-2012, 11:37 PM	#46
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Regardless of who started it, if kid A was involved and admitted it, I don't see why him being punished is being shafted. He still did something wrong, even if he was just following another kids lead. The fact that kid B didn't get punished really isn't anything to do with it IMO. Yeah it sucks, but as a parent, i think the lesson you have to try and teach is that if you do something wrong you get punished. There's consequences. Just because B got away with it shouldn't have any bearing. As the parent it's up to you to teach your kid a better way of doing things no matter what other kids are up to, or what they get pinned with. Yeah I know I'm late to the party, but after reading the thread, I just wanted to say a couple of things. One other thing I wanted to talk about was the fact that I'm sure as a parent you agree that your child should have been punished for his actions, but you're not happy that he's taken the whole blame. I just think it's really important that you don't talk about the sour grapes you feel in front of the child. He needs to learn to man up and be responsible for his actions regardless of what happens to the other kids. You as a parent are responsible for making sure he gets that message, and if he hears you talking about how unfair it all is, what lesson do you think he'll take from that? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

01-18-2012, 01:32 PM	#48
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	I do not have children. I hope I never do. I do not like children. I did not like myself when I was a children. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

01-18-2012, 10:44 PM	#52
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Didn't like myself as a child either, and people were surprised when I got pregnant. In a rude way. Doen't anyone get that I just don't like other people's children? My own are kind of cool. Hebe was the first baby I ever held. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

01-18-2012, 12:24 AM	#47
it Banned Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 772	for the most part i am with ali on this one, and even though its hard to teach him about actions having consequances when he see's his friend not having them, there's a much more important lesson there: life isn't fair, and other then our own wishful thinking there's nothing in the world the says its supposed to be. we don't all get what "we deserve", bad or good. there is absolutely no point in perparing a kid for an idealized world that doesn't exist - you prepare him for this world and no other.

01-18-2012, 01:39 PM	#49
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I do not have children. The odds on me having children now are slim to none. I love children, but do not seem to have the correct programming when it comes to adoring babies. I always wanted kittens. I didn't like myself as a child, but then I was given very little chance to.

01-18-2012, 09:11 PM	#50
it Banned Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 772	i had a stepson until receantly. children in the future? biological maybe, probably... but i'm never having a relationship that serious with a single mother ever again. when i view a kid as mine - my lifelong project to make him into the best person he can be - i'm all there. in which case tolerating other people kids on playdates and birthdays is a necessry evil to help your kid develop social skills. i loved myself as a child, but that's a very common characteristic of the babyboomer's children.

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