My kid is getting shafted - Page 3

Shawnee123 · 10-21-2010, 08:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spexxvet

I'm really surprised that the lunch supervisor's report isn't given more weight. Could you have the principal's supervisor look into the matter?

Principal's supervisor? School superintendent?

glatt · 10-21-2010, 09:06 AM

Yeah, call the mayor while you're at it.

Undertoad · 10-21-2010, 10:26 AM

I know it's no consolation, but chances are B gets abuse at home. This shit doesn't appear out of nowhere.

footfootfoot · 10-21-2010, 11:25 AM

UT''s on to something there. Drop a dime on B's folks with Social Services about some form of abuse suspected. That'll keep the family busy. Unless of course his folks are crack whores in which case DSS will just pass on by.

Adak · 10-21-2010, 01:45 PM

Your son had some involvement in the fight, and whether he only held kid C, or actually hit him, doesn't matter. He's just as guilty as B.

Don't for a moment THINK that justice is fair. That rarely happens. Justice is blind, remember?

Credit your son for being honest. Advise him to never admit guilt again, until after considering advice given to him, by you or his lawyer, and to keep his hands, etc., off of others. He can't go through school or life, getting into fights. Not directly, and not indirectly, by manipulating others.

Do NOT concern yourself with the punishment of B. That is NOT your concern AT ALL. Try to assist your son to overcome the damage your son helped to inflict on C, if it's possible.

A handwritten note from your son, apologizing and wishing C all the best, perhaps on a card, would be appropriate.

No matter WHAT you do to try and get some fairness in this matter of B, is simply wrong - you are out of line, mister - stop, immediately.

Cloud · 10-21-2010, 03:39 PM

don't call Social Services on him for a schoolyard fistfight

Spexxvet · 10-21-2010, 05:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt

Yeah, call the mayor while you're at it.

Some parents would already have a lawyer involved.

anonymous · 03-24-2011, 10:57 AM

Update (reminded by Spexxvet linking to the discussion)

Kid B was moved to a different class after Christmas, no explanation, life became much better. Kid A has learned to avoid Kid B

Principal also assured us kids A and B would not be in the same class next year.

Principal resigned last week

There have apparently been many complaints about similar poor handling of situations, principal (who was on a year's leave to get a masters degree) has decided to pursue a different career.

anonymous · 01-16-2012, 09:34 PM

Update

Kid B did not return to school this year. The principal also left (as per previous update). Rumor has it principal was pushed and this incident was part of the reason (among several others). New principal was one of the teachers who (unofficially) agreed Kid A was getting shafted. Kid A is doing so much better and is now best friends with and in class with Kid C.

BigV · 01-16-2012, 09:47 PM

good to hear, thanks for the update.

classicman · 01-16-2012, 10:31 PM

Excellent.
Is "A" feeling better about going to school now?
Any progress on the "stay away from B" plan?

monster · 01-16-2012, 10:51 PM

Presumably Kid B not returning to school would help with the "staying away" thing?

Sundae · 01-17-2012, 11:08 AM

Sometimes things don't go after all from bad to worse

Kid A behaved well after the incident, and the fact he is now friends with Kid C shows how badly he was influenced. Who knows, one of them might end up telling this story at the other's wedding.

Glad the real troublemaker is out of the picture.
At that age, sometimes that is the very best to hope for.
Children cannot make the same logical decisions as adults - I see it over and over at school. Although to a much lesser extent.

ZenGum · 01-17-2012, 07:06 PM

If you really think adults make logical decisions ...

infinite monkey · 01-17-2012, 07:15 PM

Seriously. Kid B will be a wife beater or a serial killer or something.

Unless Kid B has some kind of epiphany or someone shows Kid B there are better ways to go about things.

Sad...

10-21-2010, 11:25 AM	#34
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	UT''s on to something there. Drop a dime on B's folks with Social Services about some form of abuse suspected. That'll keep the family busy. Unless of course his folks are crack whores in which case DSS will just pass on by. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

10-21-2010, 03:39 PM	#36
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	don't call Social Services on him for a schoolyard fistfight __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

01-16-2012, 09:47 PM	#40
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	good to hear, thanks for the update. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

01-16-2012, 10:31 PM	#41
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Excellent. Is "A" feeling better about going to school now? Any progress on the "stay away from B" plan? __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

01-16-2012, 10:51 PM	#42
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Presumably Kid B not returning to school would help with the "staying away" thing? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-21-2010, 09:06 AM	#32
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Yeah, call the mayor while you're at it.

10-21-2010, 10:26 AM	#33
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I know it's no consolation, but chances are B gets abuse at home. This shit doesn't appear out of nowhere.

10-21-2010, 01:45 PM	#35
Adak Lecturer Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 796	Your son had some involvement in the fight, and whether he only held kid C, or actually hit him, doesn't matter. He's just as guilty as B. Don't for a moment THINK that justice is fair. That rarely happens. Justice is blind, remember? Credit your son for being honest. Advise him to never admit guilt again, until after considering advice given to him, by you or his lawyer, and to keep his hands, etc., off of others. He can't go through school or life, getting into fights. Not directly, and not indirectly, by manipulating others. Do NOT concern yourself with the punishment of B. That is NOT your concern AT ALL. Try to assist your son to overcome the damage your son helped to inflict on C, if it's possible. A handwritten note from your son, apologizing and wishing C all the best, perhaps on a card, would be appropriate. No matter WHAT you do to try and get some fairness in this matter of B, is simply wrong - you are out of line, mister - stop, immediately.

03-24-2011, 10:57 AM	#38
anonymous Operations Operative Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: in hiding Posts: 578	Update (reminded by Spexxvet linking to the discussion) Kid B was moved to a different class after Christmas, no explanation, life became much better. Kid A has learned to avoid Kid B Principal also assured us kids A and B would not be in the same class next year. Principal resigned last week There have apparently been many complaints about similar poor handling of situations, principal (who was on a year's leave to get a masters degree) has decided to pursue a different career.

01-16-2012, 09:34 PM	#39
anonymous Operations Operative Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: in hiding Posts: 578	Update Kid B did not return to school this year. The principal also left (as per previous update). Rumor has it principal was pushed and this incident was part of the reason (among several others). New principal was one of the teachers who (unofficially) agreed Kid A was getting shafted. Kid A is doing so much better and is now best friends with and in class with Kid C.

01-17-2012, 11:08 AM	#43
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Sometimes things don't go after all from bad to worse Kid A behaved well after the incident, and the fact he is now friends with Kid C shows how badly he was influenced. Who knows, one of them might end up telling this story at the other's wedding. Glad the real troublemaker is out of the picture. At that age, sometimes that is the very best to hope for. Children cannot make the same logical decisions as adults - I see it over and over at school. Although to a much lesser extent.

01-17-2012, 07:06 PM	#44
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	If you really think adults make logical decisions ... __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

01-17-2012, 07:15 PM	#45
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Seriously. Kid B will be a wife beater or a serial killer or something. Unless Kid B has some kind of epiphany or someone shows Kid B there are better ways to go about things. Sad... Last edited by infinite monkey; 01-17-2012 at 07:32 PM.

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