I have always admired people who are genuinely social

[Clodfobble]

Originally Posted by Undertoad

The difference is this: I'm fine once I'm given a role to play, but if I have to just freelance, forget it.

Exactly! Now all you have to do is build in your mind the role of the confident, suave, socially savvy man, and play that guy whenever you go out. Give him a fake life story and everything. (But don't tell people that life story when you're playing this role, because that's called pathological lying and it's frowned upon. Just let it inform the character.) Don't say what Undertoad would say, play the character the way He would say it. Eventually that character could be named Social Undertoad, and you could be able to turn him on and off at will.

[Shawnee123]

I could emcee scholarship banquets with wit and eloquence. I could teach classes and earn the respect and admiration of the students. I can talk to students for 10 hours in a row and do a damn good job.

I hate every single minute of it, deep inside.

In social situations, I can hold my own. Give me a couple brewskis and I have everyone rolling, but is that "me" or another version of "me"? Is my introversion hidden by the beer, or is my extroversion enhanced by the beer?

To be fair, I can be completely social without alcohol, and have a good time, but just as often I'd rather be home with my nose in a book.

Master Thespian.

(new user title)

[Sundae]

I couldn't work out why my post was different to other people's.
I just felt it was.
I reread it.
And then I realised something I already knew.
It's not the difference between extrovert or introvert to me; it's whether people like me or not.

No-one else has based their action on other people's reaction. After all, that wasn't the point.
With me, it's pretty much my only factor.

That's sad.

[Cloud]

people like people who like them. i.e., the love you take is equal to the love you make.

[HungLikeJesus]

Clone thread:
I have always admired people who are genuinely socialist

[monster]

Label me, people! Introvert or Extrovert? Sociable or Unsociable? tell me your impressions then I'll tell you how they match up to my perceptions of the real monster......

[sexobon]

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Exactly! Now all you have to do is build in your mind the role of the confident, suave, socially savvy man, and play that guy whenever you go out. ... Eventually that character could be named Social Undertoad, and you could be able to turn him on and off at will.

Originally Posted by monster

Label me, people! Introvert or Extrovert? Sociable or Unsociable? tell me your impressions then I'll tell you how they match up to my perceptions of the real monster......

I'd guess that you're fundamentally an introvert with the ability to turn it on and present as an extrovert upon the first pressing (without having to warm up) into a social situation much as Clod suggests above. I classify those who can will themselves (opposed to doing it naturally) to turn it on upon the first pressing as Extravirginverts.

People will find you socially acceptable whether you choose to be sociable or unsociable with them; because, they'll figure you did so by choice rather than inhibition.

[DanaC]

Oh! Do me, do me!

[Trilby]

Originally Posted by DanaC

Oh! Do me, do me!

careful with that, Dana

Sundae - I don't think you are giving yourself enough credit.

[Spexxvet]

Originally Posted by monster

Label me, people! Introvert or Extrovert? Sociable or Unsociable? tell me your impressions then I'll tell you how they match up to my perceptions of the real monster......

Unsociable extrovert. You don't give a damn what people think of you, and you'll tell it to everybody you meet.

I'm not a "starter". In a group of "unfamiliars", I can hold my own when someone else starts the conversation, but I freeze up when I have to lead. I have a friend who can start talking to anyone. He's the master ice-breaker.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Never seeing no one nice again like you...

[Stormieweather]

Sometimes I'm in the mood to chat and sometimes, I'm not. A lot of it depends on who I'm around and the venue. I'm perfectly content to sit alone and people-watch, but also, if in the mood and the location is right, to engage with one or a crowd and get rowdy.

[skysidhe]

You seem like a well rounded healthy individual Stormie.

[sexobon]

Originally Posted by DanaC

Oh! Do me, do me!

Originally Posted by DanaC

I am very, very sociable, and also very, very unsociable. I can 'turn it on' at parties ...

[snip]and I just had to plaster my confident, friendly, yet totally unconcerned expression onto my face ... [/snip]

[snip & sequence]The last five or six years have given me a wide range of experiences that have given me some confidence in what I am portraying of myself ... [/snip & sequence]

[snip]Spending time in social situations (beyond idle chit chat with mates and immediate family) is exhausting to me. ... [/snip]

With people I am comortable with, i am a naturally gregarious person. I have taught myself to take a little of that gregariousness with me into less comfortable situations. But I require large amounts of time to myself to recharge my batteries.

Since you're not outgoing in most social situations, you're not an extrovert. While you share some traits that I attributed to monster like being able to "turn it on," you seem to simply portray that role rather than stepping into it. The ability to step into it comes from a feeling of confidence that when you step into a room, you COULD exercise some form of control over everyone in it if you chose to do so. Soldiers could exercise the power of life and death, comedians could exercise the power of joy and laughter, parents could exercise the power of love and approval ... etc. Finding that niche enables one to completely step into the role when they "turn it on." The aftereffects are minimal.

While I classified monster as an Extravirginvert (technically a sous extrovert), I would classify you as a Thespianvert (technically a haut introvert).

[Trilby]

who knew cinnabon was a psych major?

I mean sexobon. SEXOBON.