I need some help - Page 2

Alluvial · 05-06-2009, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by classicman

lol - what difference does it make if they are in the military or not? whew

The military makes it a point to be involved in the home lives of servicemen. Domestic troubles are taken seriously.

sugarpop · 05-07-2009, 06:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alluvial

The military makes it a point to be involved in the home lives of servicemen. Domestic troubles are taken seriously.

Exactly, and this situation should definitely be on their radar. If they aren't involved yet, they should be. A woman emptying your bank account and running off with your kid with another soldier, who is also married, is a big bad no-no behavior in the armed services.

05-06-2009, 06:59 PM

That's a good point; if you haven't gotten his CO involved in your custody case, maybe you should?

You should not be denied visitation, that's just wrong.

capnhowdy · 05-06-2009, 09:03 PM

capnhowdy · 05-07-2009, 07:34 AM

Shenanigans?

Gravdigr · 05-08-2009, 01:48 PM

Hey Sarge, you might try this website. Don't know if it'll do what you need, but try it out, see if it works. Supposed to find people on those type social networking sites. Site is http://yoname.com/ Good luck

Big Sarge · 05-09-2009, 01:15 PM

Thanks for the comments ya'll. If you recall, I have mentioned this situation before & have even posted a photo of my daughter.

The other soldier was M-Day (Title 32) and not subject to UCMJ (He fell under state article 5). He obtained his divorce from his wife, before he mobilized.

capnhowdy · 05-09-2009, 09:54 PM

That 'splains it. Good luck with that. Hang in there.

morethanpretty · 05-10-2009, 09:08 AM

Sorry I can't help for real, but I do send you my wishes for the best!

Just use up ALL of your legal resources, first. Once you use up all of those, find more. There are probably non-profits/pro-bono organizations that can help, they just aren't obvious. I would not go this route of "spying" on her, whether or not its just to see your little girl, which I fully understand your longing. Better that you wait for the courts to sort it out. I'm afraid if you go down this sneaky route, and you get caught it will have severe consequences and keep you from seeing the child longer.
Be patient, don't give up. But also be careful about the steps you take.

ZenGum · 05-10-2009, 11:37 PM

What MTP said. Your daughter matters to you, so keep trying, but do not put a single toe one inch over the line of the law, otherwise the Ex can and will get some shark of a lawyer who will screw you even more.

05-13-2009, 03:15 PM

Have you pursued custody/visitation? That is your first line of defense in a situation like this.

Sundae · 05-13-2009, 03:41 PM

Sarge, through this thread you're learning.
You don't always get what you want from the Cellar. But if you try sometimes, you might find, you get some damned good advice, and a different way of looking at a problem. What? Oh okay, sometimes you get what you need too...

I know the responses haven't been what you initially requested, but they probably contain things worth following up on. I don't know, they're all written in foreign. All I know is a daughter really needs her Daddy. Forget about just seeing pics of her - you fight til the death to make sure she knows you love her - absent or not.

05-06-2009, 09:03 PM	#4
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05-07-2009, 07:34 AM	#5
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05-08-2009, 01:48 PM	#6
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05-09-2009, 01:15 PM	#7
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Thanks for the comments ya'll. If you recall, I have mentioned this situation before & have even posted a photo of my daughter. The other soldier was M-Day (Title 32) and not subject to UCMJ (He fell under state article 5). He obtained his divorce from his wife, before he mobilized. __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

05-09-2009, 09:54 PM	#8
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	That 'splains it. Good luck with that. Hang in there. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

05-06-2009, 06:59 PM	#3
Tiki Guest Posts: n/a	That's a good point; if you haven't gotten his CO involved in your custody case, maybe you should? You should not be denied visitation, that's just wrong.

05-10-2009, 09:08 AM	#9
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	Sorry I can't help for real, but I do send you my wishes for the best! Just use up ALL of your legal resources, first. Once you use up all of those, find more. There are probably non-profits/pro-bono organizations that can help, they just aren't obvious. I would not go this route of "spying" on her, whether or not its just to see your little girl, which I fully understand your longing. Better that you wait for the courts to sort it out. I'm afraid if you go down this sneaky route, and you get caught it will have severe consequences and keep you from seeing the child longer. Be patient, don't give up. But also be careful about the steps you take. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

05-10-2009, 11:37 PM	#10
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	What MTP said. Your daughter matters to you, so keep trying, but do not put a single toe one inch over the line of the law, otherwise the Ex can and will get some shark of a lawyer who will screw you even more. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

05-13-2009, 03:15 PM	#11
Tiki Guest Posts: n/a	Have you pursued custody/visitation? That is your first line of defense in a situation like this.

05-13-2009, 03:41 PM	#12
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Sarge, through this thread you're learning. You don't always get what you want from the Cellar. But if you try sometimes, you might find, you get some damned good advice, and a different way of looking at a problem. What? Oh okay, sometimes you get what you need too... I know the responses haven't been what you initially requested, but they probably contain things worth following up on. I don't know, they're all written in foreign. All I know is a daughter really needs her Daddy. Forget about just seeing pics of her - you fight til the death to make sure she knows you love her - absent or not. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

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