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Old 05-22-2009, 08:47 PM   #1
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yeah...i wasn't complaining about it, btw....if you want to tell us about your difficulties, then cool. many people here will read it all and attempt to commiserate/console/feel you.
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Old 05-22-2009, 08:54 PM   #2
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I'm not complaining about it either...just pointing out that life's experiences are unique for each of us, and we will all have different perspectives. My perspective is usually that of a hard-case, but what do I know?
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Old 05-23-2009, 12:49 AM   #3
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I wouldn't be so sure he didn't weigh the input before making a decision how to proceed.
I'm glad he was able to make up his mind and do it.
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Old 05-23-2009, 04:00 AM   #4
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My perspective is usually that of a hard-case, but what do I know?
Unless you have a homeless guy mooching off you
Which proves your point - it's very different when you are the one in the situation. Life is much less logical once emotions are involved.

Dis - let this draw a line under it, okay?
If she does not answer, don't read any more into it. Painful as it is - excrutiatingly, stomach-punchingly, got you sitting all night at the bar painful, I remember - this is still only temporary. Without further input from her it will very gradually hurt less. Which isn't what you want at all, but is the only consolation I can offer.
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Old 05-23-2009, 12:06 PM   #5
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Unless you have a homeless guy mooching off you
Which proves your point - it's very different when you are the one in the situation. Life is much less logical once emotions are involved.
Zinngggggg...

So true.
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Old 05-23-2009, 12:55 AM   #6
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He took action. Whether it was the correct one - who knows? But it was better than doing nothing at all. He has to proceed with his life now. The next move, if there is one, is entirely up to her.
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Old 05-23-2009, 03:05 AM   #7
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He took action. Whether it was the correct one - who knows? But it was better than doing nothing at all. He has to proceed with his life now. The next move, if there is one, is entirely up to her.
What he said ...
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Old 05-23-2009, 04:23 AM   #8
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sundae girl: I hear you. Let's call it "Nobody gets all the answers they want". It ain't closure, it ain't clarity. But if this is the last interaction, at least I can tell myself that I tried to keep the lines of communication open. She doesn't answer, well, there's not much I can do about that. As it was said well by BigV earlier in the thread, I can't act for both of us.
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Old 05-23-2009, 06:37 AM   #9
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You can pissed (drunk) with me n watch shitty movies if ya want?
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Old 05-23-2009, 02:17 PM   #10
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Interesting. Also entertaining. I find it odd that the people with the most "sound advice" are usually the ones from failed relationships.

Carry on.
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Old 05-23-2009, 02:32 PM   #11
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Well, that would make sense, wouldn't it? I don't have much to add, since the last time I was dumped was in 1991.
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Old 05-23-2009, 04:11 PM   #12
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Who you going to ask about recovering froma serious accident?
That's right, the chap with the scars.
Now you might not take safety advice from him, or even tips on a good night out, but he knows what he's talking about when it comes to cuts and bruises.

If LJ and Jinx were asking for advice (as if) mine would be noticeable by its absence.

Dis - do I get the feeling you are from this side of the pond? Or is it a holiday for the Merkins this weekend too?
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Old 05-23-2009, 04:15 PM   #13
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All I remember is looking for love really really sucks. I wasted soooo much time doing that. Its either there or it isnt.
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Old 05-23-2009, 04:17 PM   #14
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SG, it's Memorial Day on Monday for us merkins. Remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice for citizens and country.
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Old 05-23-2009, 04:20 PM   #15
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Ah, thank you. We do all that in November, when it's suitably gloomy.

We have a Bank Holiday on Monday because it's the end of May.
It's usually spent complaining about the weather.
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