Adding insult to injury or Moving forward?

[classicman]

First contact post dissolution has been made. She texted me late Thursday night to inform me that she had to put one of her cats down. Struck me right in the heart. I'm embarrassed to say that I missed them - a lot. And now I'll never have had the chance to say goodbye properly. Fuck.
I replied with my condolences and nothing more.
She pretty much did the same. It was surreal, in a way. I immediately felt like I wanted to be there for her. To comfort her and help share/lessen the burden of her grief... Seemingly no desire for that on her side. I'm feeling guilty in a weird way and then at the same time not at all. sigh ...