My staff wants me dead

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Originally Posted by orthodoc

ha ha ... learned today that the staff of my clinic talks daily about hoping I die today, or that I have a car accident on the way to work. They call me 'Miss Canada' as if that were something derogatory.
Plus other random derogatory stuff. These are the people who used to come in at 9:30 and clock in on the computer as starting at 8:00. They turned away people because they couldn't be bothered seeing patients, including a guy I've seen now for six months with a severe head injury who has benefited from multiple therapies.

Apparently this has been going on for months, and the non-hospital staff we share office space with got so disgusted they finally shared. I got the brunt of it this morning, right before clinic. A month ago I was accused of bullying; a week ago the VP of HR told me I was 'equally the problem'. He knew the staff were saying loudly that they wished I were dead, or would be maimed enroute to work. But I am equally the problem, according to him.

I meet with the CEO on Friday. I am done with this. Either he gets rid of staff who actively, vociferously wish my death on a daily basis, or he faces the biggest EEOC lawsuit ever, and I go out on my own.

hey orthodoc.

I'm really sorry to hear you have such a hostile environment at work. I've worked in places where I felt hostility toward me and it was terrible, unbearable. My (most recent such) situation eventually ended with my being laid off, so you should know that before you read my thoughts on the matter. Caveat emptor. I should also add in my best Captain Obvious voice, I am not a lawyer.

The situation you describe sounds shitty. But I don't see what the EEOC has to do with what you've described. People being shitty is not illegal, to my knowledge. You said you heard this third hand, they're not even being shitty to you directly. What's your complaint? The VP of HR who's said you're half the problem, that sounds shitty too. But it seems like you've left something out, what exactly *is* your half, according to the VP? That you continue to draw breath? Obviously, that's their problem, not yours. That you don't let them falsify their timesheets? Once again, their problem, not yours. You're a bully? I don't know, maybe you are. That's pretty subjective, and hard to prove, like the "die in a car crash" might be hard to prove. Regardless.

The whole "he said, she said", or "I heard someone said somebody else said...", who the fuck wants to play that kind of game?!? Not you. I could be wrong, but I think you're much more about the work, and not (at all) about the fucking junior high school drama and shenanigans. SO, if you don't like that part, don't play. Don't go onto that part of the playground. Stick to the parts you like, you're good at, and that can be objectively evaluated. You know, like the actual work. Honest timesheets. Valid patient assessments. Doctor-y stuff. That's YOUR territory, that's your home field advantage. And you have an additional benefit, that's what the company wants too--even if some of the people there don't say so (I'm looking at you, VP).

The company wants to make their goddamn money, and the shitty statements are irrelevant. They're irrelevant. They're irrelevant UNTIL they impact the success of the business. Right now, the shit stirrers are successful at making it appear that the problem is you (at least half of it, eh?). Make the business case, stick to the business case. Show them how the shitty remarks are costing the business money and you'll have their attention. That's the kind of thing that can be documented and measured, plus, it's really what the business cares about.

Keep in mind, I don't work in that kind of environment any more, that environment expelled me; we were not compatible. I wasn't any good at playing that game and I didn't like it. Those two factors reinforced each other, amplified each other and eventually impacted my actual work duties. To say it was a distraction would be an understatement. Apparently, someone(s) there want you gone. That was true in my case, and eventually someone who could make that happen was similarly persuaded. I can say my life is much better now than then, overall, though my money situation is not better. Still, worth it.

TL;DR

Stick to the work. It's what you do best, it's what you like best, and it's where you have the greatest advantage and possibility of success. Mean people suck; let them.

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