Loneliness is about twice as dangerous as obesity - Page 3

Flint · 06-02-2014, 03:03 AM

Admittedly she is better at explaining this part, but, see, it wasn't infidelity, she was just sleeping in the same bed with another man while I was out of town, telling me we were still together, and then waiting until I moved back home to tell me it's over, and oops she might already be in another relationship, accidentally. But that's not infidelity, that's just me being an asshole for no reason. Totally different thing. See, it sounds crazy when I say it. Sorry, I'm not as good at explaining things as she is.

DanaC · 06-02-2014, 04:05 AM

Christ on a bike, Flint, that sounds horrible. I have no sage advice I'm afraid - but am thinking of you with kindness nonetheless.

infinite monkey · 06-02-2014, 06:53 AM

I'm sorry Flint.

I don't know your pain, but I know 'the' pain, and it sticks with some of us. As jim said, don't let it ruin you.

Geez, just what a shitty situation. Vent here if you can or want to.

glatt · 06-02-2014, 07:14 AM

Wow, Flint. I'm sorry. What an unexpected blow.

Undertoad · 06-02-2014, 07:26 AM

Well, you got us. That's something.

limey · 06-02-2014, 09:44 AM

That sounds terrible, Flint. How I got through the worst of times for me was to say to myself "this is awful, it feels like shit, and hurts worse than anything I've ever lived through, but I will get over it." You will, too. And, as UT says, you have us.

Sent by thought transference

Undertoad · 06-02-2014, 10:01 AM

It seems impossible to believe now, but in a year, give or take six months, you will be having amazingly good times.

mark it down

DanaC · 06-02-2014, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

It seems impossible to believe now, but in a year, give or take six months, you will be having amazingly good times.

mark it down

True dat.

It's bizarre really, how much negative stuff just goes under the radar for years - then once you get past the heart-wrenchingly shitty break up you realise how much you really don't miss this or that aspect.

lumberjim · 06-02-2014, 11:07 AM

Amen to that.

For now, fake it. Do things you like to do, even if you don't feel like it right now. Surrender to this reality if it can't be changed. Don't resist what you can't control. Talk to whoever will listen, write it down... Just get out of your past and don't fear the future. This shall pass.

xoxoxoBruce · 06-02-2014, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Flint

You're missing the point. Twice.

Yeah, right, I'm missing the point.

Flint · 06-02-2014, 11:23 AM

Bruce, what is your problem? This break up happened six months ago. I'm here to share how, as an individual, I'm struggling to move forward, even if by cobbling together some kind of positive self image out of duct tape and superficial attributes. You're way the fuck off in left field trying to diagnose a relationship that is dead and buried. We went to counseling and worked through this shit as best as we could. We are big boys and girls, we don't need your pop psychology diagnosis, so please just drop it. Will someone validate his desire to appear perceptive and insightful, so he won't feel the need to continue?

xoxoxoBruce · 06-02-2014, 11:29 AM

Six months later claiming, I wuz robbed, means you don't get it. So just ignore me and keep seeking affirmation of your victimhood.

infinite monkey · 06-02-2014, 11:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint

Bruce, what is your problem? This break up happened six months ago. I'm here to share how, as an individual, I'm struggling to move forward, even if by cobbling together some kind of positive self image out of duct tape and superficial attributes. You're way the fuck off in left field trying to diagnose a relationship that is dead and buried. We went to counseling and worked through this shit as best as we could. We are big boys and girls, we don't need your pop psychology diagnosis, so please just drop it. Will someone validate his desire to appear perceptive and insightful, so he won't feel the need to continue?

Can't validate it, he's a bitter old asshole, projecting his many failed relationships on your one and current situation...pretending he's so forgiving and that he takes on the burden of responsibility in his relationships.

He hasn't spoken to me in years. I consider myself lucky. There were times I tried to crawl up like the injured pet he likes to believe women are, and I was ignored. Because, you see, it was all MY fault our friendship blew to pieces. Personal responsibility my ass.

Now ignore him and listen to what others have to say. We care.

Flint · 06-02-2014, 11:42 AM

Bruce, you have a fair point. Totally off-topic, but I do understand what you're saying. As I've explained, six months, couples counseling, and me not being a completely insensitive block of granite have pretty much negated the need for quickie five-minute Internet armchair quarterbacks to repeatedly attempt to 'blow my mind' with post analysis of a series of events I've had six months to consider every aspect of. Public forum, though, so, oh well.

infinite monkey · 06-02-2014, 11:48 AM

I'll never understand the dynamics here.

Flint, you're a wimp
Bruce, get off my ass
You're such a 'victim'
Bruce, get off my ass
Still not getting off your ass
you know, you should ignore that mean shit
Oh, bruce, you really do have a point!

Whut? *snickers*

06-02-2014, 03:03 AM	#31
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	Admittedly she is better at explaining this part, but, see, it wasn't infidelity, she was just sleeping in the same bed with another man while I was out of town, telling me we were still together, and then waiting until I moved back home to tell me it's over, and oops she might already be in another relationship, accidentally. But that's not infidelity, that's just me being an asshole for no reason. Totally different thing. See, it sounds crazy when I say it. Sorry, I'm not as good at explaining things as she is. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

06-02-2014, 09:44 AM	#36
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	That sounds terrible, Flint. How I got through the worst of times for me was to say to myself "this is awful, it feels like shit, and hurts worse than anything I've ever lived through, but I will get over it." You will, too. And, as UT says, you have us. Sent by thought transference __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-02-2014, 11:07 AM	#39
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	Amen to that. For now, fake it. Do things you like to do, even if you don't feel like it right now. Surrender to this reality if it can't be changed. Don't resist what you can't control. Talk to whoever will listen, write it down... Just get out of your past and don't fear the future. This shall pass. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

06-02-2014, 11:23 AM	#41
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	Bruce, what is your problem? This break up happened six months ago. I'm here to share how, as an individual, I'm struggling to move forward, even if by cobbling together some kind of positive self image out of duct tape and superficial attributes. You're way the fuck off in left field trying to diagnose a relationship that is dead and buried. We went to counseling and worked through this shit as best as we could. We are big boys and girls, we don't need your pop psychology diagnosis, so please just drop it. Will someone validate his desire to appear perceptive and insightful, so he won't feel the need to continue? __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio** Last edited by Flint; 06-02-2014 at 11:28 AM.

06-02-2014, 11:29 AM	#42
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Six months later claiming, I wuz robbed, means you don't get it. So just ignore me and keep seeking affirmation of your victimhood. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

06-02-2014, 06:53 AM	#33
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	I'm sorry Flint. I don't know your pain, but I know 'the' pain, and it sticks with some of us. As jim said, don't let it ruin you. Geez, just what a shitty situation. Vent here if you can or want to.

06-02-2014, 07:14 AM	#34
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Wow, Flint. I'm sorry. What an unexpected blow.

06-02-2014, 07:26 AM	#35
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Well, you got us. That's something.

06-02-2014, 10:01 AM	#37
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	It seems impossible to believe now, but in a year, give or take six months, you will be having amazingly good times. mark it down

06-02-2014, 11:42 AM	#44
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	Bruce, you have a fair point. Totally off-topic, but I do understand what you're saying. As I've explained, six months, couples counseling, and me not being a completely insensitive block of granite have pretty much negated the need for quickie five-minute Internet armchair quarterbacks to repeatedly attempt to 'blow my mind' with post analysis of a series of events I've had six months to consider every aspect of. Public forum, though, so, oh well. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

06-02-2014, 11:48 AM	#45
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	I'll never understand the dynamics here. Flint, you're a wimp Bruce, get off my ass You're such a 'victim' Bruce, get off my ass Still not getting off your ass you know, you should ignore that mean shit Oh, bruce, you really do have a point! Whut? snickers

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