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That's my story and I'm stickin' to it....
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Hammond, La.
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stacyv:
Perhaps you should try counseling. I feel a lot of what you feel, a lot of the time. Counseling helps, because you're talking to a person who is neutral, and can see things from outside. Sometimes we're so close we can't see the forest for the trees. We feel like we're in a rut we can't get out of, and feel as if there are no possibilities open to us, and we get even more depressed. It feeds on itself, and things get worse because we can't see a way to climb out of it on our own. You also mentioned feeling depressed. I have a problem with depression myself, and I've found that Zoloft helps to level me out well. If you have clinical depression, getting something to help with that first may help you feel better and consequently to see a way through things more clearly, without the cloud of depression coloring your views. When you're depressed, everything sucks. You're so busy feeling miserable, that you can't see the good in anything because it seems like EVERYTHING'S going wrong, and usually all at once. If you see a counselor and find that you ARE clinically depressed, you may be able to get medication for it. Once you level out, and are more able to feel okay about things, and not automatically see the bad side, it may be easier to address everything else. Without the influence of the depression, things often seem more hopeful. Good luck to you. ![]() Sidhe
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Your Bartender
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Philly Burbs, PA
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stays crispy in milk
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: A strange planet called Utah
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When my mom and I moved back to Utah from CA she (and me) had no friends. She started going to the Unitarian Church (we had previously gone to that church about 10 earlier when we lived in Utah before) as a way to make friends. She now has a little group of woman she goes sees movies with and attends parties and GTG with. It might be worth checking out just once to see how you like it.
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Junior Master Dwellar
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Kingdom of Atlantia
Posts: 2,979
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Desensitization shots. One shot, every week for three years. And damn expensive. Now I can eat what I want. And I'm diet, cuz I ate what I wanted and got fat.
My goal is 160 when Steve and I take our renewal vows in 2007. I want to be in a size 12 or 14 dress. (I'm in a tight 12 at 155, so 14 is ok.).... that's a long way from here. I figure if I lose 3 pounds a month, I'll be about 160 by then. |
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#20 |
I can hear my ears
Join Date: Oct 2003
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what's that some kind of math homework? someone will figure out your weight if you make it a challenge like that.
oh...stacy, i know i said id leave this alone, so i'll go minimalistic. chin up! chest out! breathe!
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Junior Master Dwellar
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Kingdom of Atlantia
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Nono, not a challenge. Really. The math is scary, don't bother. I'm waaaaaaay overweight. Let's just leave it there, shall we?
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Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: under the weather
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I second the (christian) church notion, of course. But all of the ideas have been good. I quit the nicotine thing cold turkey last monday. To say I miss it is an understatement. But the battle to keep quit has been almost refreshing, in a way. I too had been suffering from depression, but I'm almost positive mine was chemically based. I've never been the healthiest person in the world, but in the last few weeks/months I've eliminated lots and lots of bad stuff from my bloodstream.
Now I can't sleep, because I stress over not having nicotine. But aside from that, I feel pretty good. I smell better, my sense of smell is better, I can taste things. You know, all the stuff people say happens when you give up tobacco.
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"I may not always be perfect, but I'm always me."
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: In Sycamore's boxers
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I technically don't have any goals either, except, I guess, to try to maintain what little good health I have left. Years ago, I wanted to be a great photographer. However, I don't think that will happen anytime soon, because I can't stand for long periods of time anymore, and now that my kidneys are done, I have too many low blood pressure days that leave me weak. The hardest thing is to give up that dream, because it was photography that got me out of a 2 years depression back in the early 90's. Quote:
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Stacey, I truly understand that you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders right about now. But, the things that you are stressing over are workable...my situation is permanent. Even if I were to get a transplant, I'd still have to worry about the side effects of the anti-rejection drugs, one of which is cancer (not to mention worrying about rejection, and having to go back on dialysis). Basically, you need to get proactive in making changes in your life. Take control of your life: see doctors about your health (trust me, finding out things now can and will save you more stress later in life), join groups OUTSIDE of the internet, go to counseling, find a hobby. Good luck.
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Shuttered and locked
Join Date: Feb 2004
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LadySycamore's right--severe menstrual cramps could be a sign of something worse, like endometriosis. You should get that checked out to make sure it isn't something serious.
And as far as smoking, I smoke, and I intend to keep on smoking. It's one of the few pleasures in my life, and damn it all to hell, EVERYTHING will kill you eventually. Everything you enjoy turns out to be bad for you; I'm not a fast-food person, so I figure I'll keep my cigarettes. It can't be any worse for me than a big mac ![]()
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I find it kinda funny, I find it kinda sad...the dreams in which I'm dying are the best I've ever had.... |
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lobber of scimitars
Join Date: Jul 2001
Location: Phila Burbs
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staceyv, you do have the ability to un-suck your life, unless you are entirely too comfortable complaining about the level of suck that you revel in it. Be aware of such tendencies, and do something about it.
This is where a therapist comes in handy. Also, everybody is definitely right ... go see a medical doctor about the cramps. You shouldn't be sidelined every month as a consequence of your period (so says the bitch who never had a cramp in her life).
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Lecturer
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Ohio
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thank you, guys. your advice has been taken to heart. after ladysycamore's post, i feel i should probably stop whining...anyways, thanks.
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I thought I changed this.
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: western nowhere, ny
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Having seen lots of lengthy posts probably filled with serious suggestions, and having read none of them, I feel compelled to contribute a meaningless attempt at humor:
Stacy, You have nothing to lose but loss itself. If that sounded deep, it was entirely on accident. |
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Re: Re: i have nothing to lose
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#29 |
Lecturer
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Ohio
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and undertoad, your advice was so perfect about my hair AND my "potential asshole" customers...i went to work last night and my first table had a little boy who was about 10 yrs old and he looked at me and said "you have pretty black hair". i couldn't believe it!!! (then again, i also waited on a table of loser, 23 yr old stoned guys that left me $5 on an $82 bill, but i guess you can't have it all)
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#30 |
Radical Centrist
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Cottage of Prussia
Posts: 31,423
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Even ten-year-olds know... Stacey's mom has got it going on... and so does Stacey.
Cool hair makes a person 10% prettier/more handsome. A cool smile makes a person 100% prettier/more handsome. I was gonna go all syrupy sweet and suggest that, every day, you write back to us what was the most joyful thing you experienced all day. Some days a big thing, like good news. Some days a little thing, like the warmth of sun that shone in on you. Even when you don't notice them, those things are there, and it is a very good thing indeed to actually notice them. People who are depressed and who come out of depression, whether by themself or through drugs or therapy, often say that the colors of the world are brighter to them. I'll go all syrupy sweet and point out what we all know - that those are the same colors, just a different mind taking them in. Maybe it would help to take in those colors just for the sake of it. Notice the beauty, notice the joy. And allowing myself these kinds of tender thoughts, and writing them here, are part of me noticing the joy as well. |
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