What's mildly irritating you today?

[DanaC]

Ach, I know. I am slightly irritated by my own lack of control though. I know he's going through it at the moment, because he's been shitting his black mood over everyone for weeks. And that was the wrong thing to say. It will have hurt him. And he will have heard it as 'don't tell me how to raise MY dog'. When we've kind of come into this together with the two pups and have shared tips and tales all the way through. I might as well have said, 'fuck off, you don't get to tell me what to do this time matey, just because you got to fuck up my last dog.' And he'll have particularly heard the 'don't come here' bit as well. Like my welcome is suddenly conditional. Which it isn't nor ever has been.

I don't mind him trying to tell me how to raise Carrot. I mind him telling me off for how I am raising him. I also mind that he seems to think he has now been vindicated in his views because of how problem free his dog is and how neurotic mine apparently is. And I mind that I responded.

Grrrrrr.....fucking so wound up now. And Carrot's totally sensing it. He's been a little shit for the last hour.

Ok. Deep breaths.

[orthodoc]

Originally Posted by DanaC

I don't mind him trying to tell me how to raise Carrot. I mind him telling me off for how I am raising him. I also mind that he seems to think he has now been vindicated in his views because of how problem free his dog is and how neurotic mine apparently is. And I mind that I responded.

Grrrrrr.....fucking so wound up now. And Carrot's totally sensing it. He's been a little shit for the last hour.

Ok. Deep breaths.

Ach, triggering, Dana. He has no business telling you off for how you're raising Carrot. You love this puppy, you do what's right for this puppy, anyone can tell. Methods vary. There isn't a one-size-fits-all. You know your puppy. Point is, he's (J, that is) stepping over the line and trashing your boundaries.

sorry - I don't know the history of you and J. Maybe stepping where I shouldn't. But I don't like to see you feeling defensive and guilted about caring for and doing a good job with the puppy you're caring for ... sorry.