"She", not "he", guys

[Stormieweather]

Originally Posted by henry quirk

Yes, agreed...and -- AGAIN -- he can and should self-define as 'she' if that's what he likes. But: I'm obligated to 'what' exactly because of his self-definition?

You aren't obligated to...anything.

You choose to define gender (or Ibram's gender, specifically) however you wish and label accordingly.

You choose not to honor her request to use the female pronoun and that's entirely up to you.

No skin off my nose any more so than calling Ibram or another gender self-defined individual the pronoun of their choice. You may offend her, but again, that is your choice to do so.