this is Mr. StaceyV

[OnyxCougar]

Not only that, but now the story is changing. And as (I think) UT pointed out, once we started picking apart Arsen's posts, she completely went to his side on things. As far as we're aware, nothing in thier relationship (aside from the bullshit "contract") has changed.

They aren't going to a therapist. They may have good intention to go, but lets think about it....he's not a citizen yet, according to her they have little money, and I know for a fact that if they try to go on welfare (for free therapy, if that exists) shit is going to hit the fan, because he doesn't have his green card yet.

The WORST thing you can do to this community is ask for advise, argue with us about the advice we give, and then FAIL TO ACT AT ALL.

See SierraMyst. (Or however you spell it).

I don't mind people asking for advice. We all have some to give. Many gave it. I don't mind her continuing to post and clarify the situation. I do have some respect for her, because I threw my shit down in the philosophy thread, and know how open to attack that makes you.

But I also know how it works. She ain't leaving him till she's damn good and ready, no matter what we say. She is still in that mentality. And maybe she shouldn't. I can't make that call.

But like Bruce, all I can do (as a Virgo) is take a critical look at the situation and the information presented to me, factor in personal experience, and I see all too clearly where this is going.

It's not pretty. And because I respect Stacey, and because I know where it's going, I gave my advice. I won't be mad if she doesn't take it, but I will be irritated if she does NOTHING. If you're going to do nothing, don't friggin ask in the first place.