love em or hate em?

[slang]

Originally posted by Elspode
Some people are just *assholes*, you know? Oozing, suffering *assholes*. I hate that.

So just do what the rest of us do. Put their names on a list and check it often to see if you can somehow in your travels through this life fuck them back for being an asshole to you.

Yeah, like I'm the *only* one here that does that.

[juju]

UT, what makes you think people won't like you? Is it because YOU don't like you, and therefore assume that others must come to the same logical conclusion?

We can fix this, you know.

[Riddil]

Yeah, I hear you UT. I'm very similar in the anxiousness I feel when I first meet someone. I'm a lot better now than I used to be, but I still think back on all the times where I'd see someone I'd like to talk to... and I had plenty of confidence to walk up and say whatever came to mind... but in the back of my head this little voice chimed in, "Why bother? Why do you think they'd want to talk to you?", and I'd walk on.

I was so worried with how other people perceived *me* that I never stopped to think about how I felt about the person I was meeting.

[lumberjim]

I used to be pretty hung up like that when i was in high school. i was fat. i lost all of the weight in my senior year, which helped, but i still cared way too much about how i was perceived by strangers. when i started going to grateful dead concerts and dressing like a freak, it faded away. i guess i confronted my fears. funny what a little acid can do for your perspective. Even when i got fat again, iwasn;t really worried about what people thought of me ( except when i'm working out in my yard, and have to bend over...plumber's crack, ya know) Now, I often have to stop and check with jinx to see if i look like a loser before i go out on an errand.

[Rokko]

I dont usually know wether I will like someone or not when I first meet them, but I start off being nicer then I normally am (offering cigs, telling jokes, laughing at stupid jokes). Usually, I bekin to either like or loathe someone within the first hour. Last person i really 'met' was my good friends new boyfriend. Took me about 5 minutes to find out he was as dumb as a post (my friend agreed, but said at least he's good for one thing *wink-wink*).

So yes, I will act like I like you at first, but that will quickly fade if youre a douchebag.


Im not that concerned if people like me i guess. I tend to distance myself from people I meet.

[Sun_Sparkz]

I try to be nice to everyone i meet, but i really get anxious when i have to meet a lot of new people at once. Or if i meet someone and they have a really stand-offish bitchy aura about them, then i get a little burred up and start being a bitch for no reason. I agree with Riddil, you meet - the chemicals in your brain start reacting - and you cant help how you feel about anyone, you like em or not but its not up to you. thats life.

[zippyt]

I try to treat folks i am meeting for the forst time the way i like to be treated , with curtisy and respect . I was tought to great floks with a firm hand shake , a smile , and a kind word . I do this ALWAYS , funny how some folks react . Most Maintance folks greet me the same way, we generly get along well ( though some feel like i am intrudeing in to their teratory) . Some manegment folks greet me the same way , some that arn't used to dealing with Folks shake weak handed , these guys i will generly have a problem with , they are administrators ONLY and weak leaders , the firm hand shake managers are generly used to dealing with Folks and we will get along fine . The production folks i deal with run the gambit from Biker ass meth heads who would just as soon rip your head off as work with you to solve a problem , to over eager suit and tie folks that generly don't have a clue what they are doing on the production floor . Engeneers are a whole different breed that most of the time defi discription , some times they RUN the whole show , some time they are in the back ground pulling political strings , then you run up on the good experenced folks that HAVE a clue , manegment, maintence , and production Know they know what they are doing and give them free rane . These are the guys I like to work with . You can't baffle them with the bull shit ( don't even try ) but they are open to radical ideas .

[slang]

Anyone have this situation when meeting people?

When I start a new job or meet a new group of people for the first time there are certain people that I just click with. Maybe we have some common interests or similar work experience....something that draws us together for conversation.

On the other extreme, there are people that just make me want to kick their asses for no rational reason. Maybe they interrupt me or say something I feel was rude, but something turns me off about them. This doesnt mean there was something specific, many times its more like a "lack of clicking" in the first couple of times we talk.

After some time though, I find the 2 groups flip 180 degrees and the people I found interesting are no longer and those that werent gradually are.

That's got to be a common experience but the degree in which the opposite groups flip seems strange after looking back from, say, a year later.

[juju]

Some people proudly proclaim that people have to "earn their respect".

I give everyone my full respect from the moment I encounter them, and then slowly take it away whenever they mess up. You may think this is crazy, but people LOVE being treated this way. They seem to crave it. People will always be cool to you if you respect them. Trust me, this is a winning strategy for dealing with people.

[novice]

Being as I can experience a multitude of emotions in a single day, and during just one of these I may meet someone for the first time, the impression I leave is not necessarily indicative of my overall demeanour or willingness to strike up a new friendship.
It just means I was probably preoccupied and, if the other party didn't try hard enough to seduce my attention, ( or vice versa) we'd part ways unaffected by the experience.
Occasionally I run into those who feel their emotional state at the time is a license to behave in an ignorant manner. Deliberate rudeness, snobbery, elitism etc is, IMHO, inexcuseable.
I've certainly been guilty of it and deserved everything I got.
Anyways, I believe if I want to kick things off on the right foot, it's down to me to show my hand first.
Armed with knowledge of all my own irrational fears it's almost easy to argue that it would be illogical to NOT like me if I put in a bit of effort.

[zippyt]

Slang said On the other extreme, there are people that just make me want to kick their asses for no rational reason.

Dude that is called Karma , as a cop once told me your first impresion is generly correct .

I get along with most ever body , BUT i have run up on a few , a verry few folks that i wanted to stomp when i first met them. After about 10 minets of talking to them or being around them i figuer out just why they deserve to be STOMPED . I have to restrain my self from hurting them , but generly they fall on their faces by them selfs , or show them selfs to be TOTAL asses .

[juju]

Undertoad, are you intentionally ignoring me?

[lumberjim]

shhh! don;t answer him!

[Griff]

Originally posted by lumberjim
shhh! don;t answer him!

Please be more careful, dar512 is hanging around... Did you notice that the grammar nazi doesn't capitalize the first letter in his name?

[lumberjim]

Originally posted by Griff


Please be more careful, dar512 is hanging around... Did you notice that the grammar nazi doesn't capitalize the first letter in his name?

oh...i assumed that dar was a woman......i pictured a schoolteacher type with the strings on her specs and the turtle neck sweater........'bout 55yrs old......ya know.......Mrs Crabapple.



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