Why do you hate your mom?

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Originally Posted by jimhelm

heard this this morning:

I paraphrase.....

Many Parents take their identity from the role they play as a parent. They are identified with the position of superiority over their children. When children grow up, and no longer require that kind of supervision, the parent loses that influence, and that control... they also lose some of who they are. Their ego is threatened, and lashes out or judges or does what ever it can to regain that control. The parents are unconscious of this occurring within themselves.

very difficult to help a person see this, though...the ego may prevent them from realizing the truth in it. What you can do is control your reaction to it. Awareness of their motivation may provide you the needed compassion to help you deal with it. Understanding that they are trying to hold on to what they see as their self worth may make it easier for you to stomach.

I totally see this with my parents. Still. It seems like my not doing what they want me to really really pains them.