Better to lie, or to break trust?

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Originally posted by Riddil
if one time you "accidentally" cheat... maybe you drank too much, never intended it to go that far, blah blah blah... but you wake up in the morning regretting everything, wishing it'd never happened.

And in that moment you realize how much you love your partner, and how much it'd hurt to lose them. It's not like you wanted to cheat. If you hadn't gotten so drunk you would have pushed away their advances.

I think some others might be agreeing with me here -- that is bullshit. You can't accidentally cheat. If you're really committed to your partner, you just don't put yourself in a situation where you might lose control. And if you do, you should own up to it, at least in your own head, and admit that you did, in fact, do something stupid on purpose.

I think it'd be best to tell, since good relationships have honesty as their foundation. But it sure would be pretty damned hard to own up to. Much easier to lie and avoid the emotional pain.