How does one become okay with being single?

[monster]

Originally Posted by mr.moons

I don't feel like that's a totally fair assessment. I don't really have a shitload of debt. It's over $10,000 but it's manageable. And I'm not the partying type, or at least I have not been. That party is one of the only ones I've ever been to.

That being said, I hear what you're saying.

Yeah, sorry for the shock-tactic tone, but it sometimes takes a sledgehammer to make a hole big enough for that elephant. But that IS a lot of debt. Unless you're earning 100K. Which you're not. We clearly have different ideas of maneagable. How much are you able to pay back each month on your current salary? How long is it going to take you to pay it back? Who in their right mind is going to be looking at a future with someone with that much debt and it not working hard towards paying it off? And the fact that you don't see it as that big of a deal is also telling. And I think Dana is not totally right. If you have debt but you're actively working to deal with it then yes, I think people can get over it, but otherwise that's a huge turn-off. Don't forget she's a hopeless commie who'd rather do away with all money and have the state control everything and make it all nice and equal

And PH45 has some VERY sound advice about hobbies and interests.

Get some confidence, get a job, get your own place -or at least a realistically financialy viable plan to do so, then worry about a long term relationship.

Good luck.

[DanaC]

Originally Posted by monster

Don't forget she's a hopeless commie who'd rather do away with all money and have the state control everything and make it all nice and equal
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Would I get to keep my iphone, though?



Debt can be a turn off, sure. But it depends on what the debt is. If that 10k is from college loans, I can't see anybody holding that against him, regardless of how much importance he places on paying it back. If the debt is from a wild bender of techno joy that got out of hand, then not prioritizing payback might be more off-putting.

[HungLikeJesus]

Originally Posted by monster

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And PH45 has some VERY sound advice about hobbies and interests.

I thought you said hobos.