So you think you've seen some bad parenting?

[SamIam]

Originally Posted by Sundae

Sam the reason not everyone lives their lives on benefits is because it's a miserable life. You have no self-esteem, you are bored, you can never better yourself (ie work harder for a couple of months to get something special) and the majority of people are simply not born that way.

A safety net doesn't make people lazy. It allows a minority to fall to the bottom without actually killing themselves. Most people want to be up on the high-wire or the trapeze.

Thanks, Sundae. I suspected the truth was more along the lines you describe. I loathe being forced onto SSDI (disability). My stipend is very, very low; and I would far rather be making a contribution of some sort than surfing the Internet all day. I just called my voc-rehab counselor for about the 5th time in this past month. I was told she out sick. Big surprise. I have not been able to schedule a meeting with that woman since last spring. She is like the watch dog I have to get past before being considered for ANY voc-rehab assistance be it state or federal. The woman who handles my evaluation and potential training at the Federal level is mad at me because I haven't sent her the paperwork from the state lady. Round and round we go.

Originally Posted by Dana

There have always been a handful of girls who took that attitude. Somehow most of them seem to end up in the Sun or the Daily Mail to bolster the latest economic assault on lone parents. The vast majority of young single mums, in my experience as a councillor, working with this particular demographic as part of the Children and Young People's services directorate, are either flailing about in panic and need help and direction, or even more likely are single-mindedly focused on building a life for their little one.

This kind of shite really muddies the water. This becomes the picture most people have of young single mums and it's really, really, not representative.

Thanks for taking time to explain all that. It would seem that things are not so very different no matter which side of the pond you are on.

[classicman]

Originally Posted by SamIam

Round and round we go.

Weeeeee. This is so much fun - NOT. There has to be a better way.


Dealing with similar BS myself. The whole thing is so frustrating and inefficient. Maybe we should send unemployed people there so that, at the very least, there is some understanding of whats happening.

[SamIam]

Originally Posted by classicman

Weeeeee. This is so much fun - NOT. There has to be a better way.


Dealing with similar BS myself. The whole thing is so frustrating and inefficient. Maybe we should send unemployed people there so that, at the very least, there is some understanding of whats happening.

There are times when I have to work very hard not to be consumed with rage at these people. Just what do they think, if anything?

I like the idea of getting rid of some of these uncivil servants and replacing them with people who have been laid off/unable to work for far too long. Such people would make the best employees IMO.

[Trilby]

Originally Posted by SamIam

Just what do they think, if anything?

They think you are driving your brand new car to your mani-pedi appointment and eating peeled shrimp whilst talking on your IPhone. That's what they think.

They also think your medicare/medicaid is paying for your facelift. You can't convince them otherwise.