A strange and terrible weekend

[hot_pastrami]

Originally posted by Undertoad
If it doesn't bug her, the problem remains solved.

So does it follow that if it does still bug her, that the problem remains unsolved? She still feels some lingering annoyance as a result of that evening, and she too felt that his letter was an unsatisfying non-apology.

It's no matter now though... I sent an e-mail declining the passes and telling them that I'd resume my patronage at their theater, though no longer exclusively. It's basically over.

Originally posted by Undertoad
In fact the only problem that remains is in your mind, and it continues to do terrible damage there, far beyond the initial disrespect which is now well in the past.

Judging by the reactions like this one, I think that I have done an inadequate job of illustrating how big an asshole Troy was that evening. I find it hard to believe that this was an isolated incident due to a bad night, because he was being so vindictive about it. He had several opportunities to resolve the situation, but instead he compounded the problem, and pursued it to the point that other people in the theater-- strangers-- were literally shouting at him to leave us alone.

Personally, I let things stew in my mind until I am satisfied with the result, or until enough time has passed that the edge has worn off. "Forgive and forget" is a nice theory, but it discourages consequences.

Imagine if you were having a pleasant evening walk with your significant other, and a well-dressed man approaches you and asks for some money. You refuse. A few minutes later, he appears from behind, and tries to make off with your wife/girlfriend's purse. After a tug-of-war, you manage to get it back. The police are nearby, and stop the perpetrator. A few minutes later, an officer comes over and says, "Well, he feels bad about what happened, and he says that if you'd only given him some money, he wouldn't have had to try to steal her purse. He doesn't understand how it got to that point. He says his wealthy father will send you $20 if you just forget the whole thing."

Would you press charges?