Etiquette - Page 2

Nirvana · 02-27-2011, 04:38 PM

And if they are playing that game I wanna stay home

But I have another sister

classicman · 02-27-2011, 05:53 PM

Sorry Nirvana - Just thought I would lay out an alternative scenario/possibility/theory.
No one knows at this point, because no one has actually spoken to her in person, nor does she care enough apparently to call the "offended parties" or anyone else...

Still seems to me like someone simply made a stupid/careless/thoughtless mistake. I can't imagine she intended to invite the men.

Who actually wrote them out? Was there a friend who helped who messed up and thought(hoped) no one would notice? Where did they get their info? Do these women have a history? Is there bad blood a backstory... Were THEY invited to similar things or were they left out?

Could this have been done with malicious intent? Certainly, if so, I wouldn't attend either. It just seems a little too cruel to me. Is it more likely that someone screwed up and just cannot admit it? That was more my guess.

I was assuming these are all wonderful people like yourself - since you are all related.
Sorry if I offended you - that certainly was not my intent.

I'll go back to not trying to help. Seems a much safer route for me.

Pico and ME · 02-27-2011, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

How is this clear to you? My brother in law's first name is Celestino my sister does not have a name even close to that. Someone took the time to write that name on an invitation. My BIL SXXX is dead why send a dead man an invite? I don't know if any other men are invited. Its hard not to be offended by this and even further since I sent an email 2x and got no response.
My sisters are upset by this... understandably...at least to me.

Celestino could be mistaken for a women's name - but only from someone who is not aware of the family at all, of course. What if the list given to the invite maker was an old Christmas Card list? I know I haven't amended mine in a while.

monster · 02-27-2011, 07:44 PM

Do the invitations say Mr. celestinohusband or Mrs. celestinohusband?

zippyt · 02-27-2011, 07:52 PM

They Obviously did it on Purpose Just to Piss you off

Nirvana · 02-27-2011, 08:06 PM

There is no Mr or Mrs on the envelope, my other BIl's name was Scott not really a gal's name. I don't think anyone did anything on purpose. Its just weird and without telling any of my sisters I thought the best way to fix the "faux pas" was to re send invitations with the correct names. If only certain men and certain women are invited [very odd] I don't want to go. Don't think that is the case. I will let you all know if my sister gets an answer from her DIl's sister.

ZenGum · 02-27-2011, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

why send a dead man an invite?

'cause dead men tell no tales, and what kind of man would be better at a baby shower?

Nirvana · 02-27-2011, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ZenGum

'cause dead men tell no tales, and what kind of man would be better at a baby shower?

Bernie?

monster · 02-27-2011, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

There is no Mr or Mrs on the envelope, my other BIl's name was Scott not really a gal's name. I don't think anyone did anything on purpose. Its just weird and without telling any of my sisters I thought the best way to fix the "faux pas" was to re send invitations with the correct names. If only certain men and certain women are invited [very odd] I don't want to go. Don't think that is the case. I will let you all know if my sister gets an answer from her DIl's sister.

If they were trying to be very formal, then Mrs. Husbandsfullname would be correct. Maybe they tried this and messed up. This all sounds like a mountain out of a molehill, though. srsly. Just go if you want to and don't if you don't. Are they going to turn people away?

Nirvana · 02-27-2011, 08:15 PM

Formality would have required MISS, MS, MRS or MR. None of the invitations included a prefacing title. If I go my 2 sisters that were technically not invited will be pissed. They claim they were not invited so not going. If I don't go my other sister that is the MIL will be pissed. Its only a big deal in the architecture of my dysfunctional family.

zippyt · 02-27-2011, 08:22 PM

get yer 2 sisters that got snubbed Drunk and crash the party !!!!

Nirvana · 02-27-2011, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by zippyt

get yer 2 sisters that got snubbed Drunk and crash the party !!!!

Classy LOL!

monster · 02-27-2011, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

Formality would have required MISS, MS, MRS or MR. None of the invitations included a prefacing title.

= they messed up

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If I go my 2 sisters that were technically not invited will be pissed. They claim they were not invited so not going. If I don't go my other sister that is the MIL will be pissed. Its only a big deal in the architecture of my dysfunctional family.

your two pissed sisters are pedantic drama queens. They should go if they want to and you should stop fretting.

Nirvana · 02-27-2011, 10:38 PM

I wouldn't call the one whose husband died in Sept a drama queen ...the other? Yah probably.

Should I go? Maybe but I have a great excuse should I need it! We started with 55 calves to be born and we have 51 to go.

02-27-2011, 04:38 PM	#16
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	And if they are playing that game I wanna stay home But I have another sister __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

02-27-2011, 05:53 PM	#17
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Sorry Nirvana - Just thought I would lay out an alternative scenario/possibility/theory. No one knows at this point, because no one has actually spoken to her in person, nor does she care enough apparently to call the "offended parties" or anyone else... Still seems to me like someone simply made a stupid/careless/thoughtless mistake. I can't imagine she intended to invite the men. Who actually wrote them out? Was there a friend who helped who messed up and thought(hoped) no one would notice? Where did they get their info? Do these women have a history? Is there bad blood a backstory... Were THEY invited to similar things or were they left out? Could this have been done with malicious intent? Certainly, if so, I wouldn't attend either. It just seems a little too cruel to me. Is it more likely that someone screwed up and just cannot admit it? That was more my guess. I was assuming these are all wonderful people like yourself - since you are all related. Sorry if I offended you - that certainly was not my intent. I'll go back to not trying to help. Seems a much safer route for me. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

02-27-2011, 07:44 PM	#19
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Do the invitations say Mr. celestinohusband or Mrs. celestinohusband? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-27-2011, 07:52 PM	#20
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	They Obviously did it on Purpose Just to Piss you off __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

02-27-2011, 08:06 PM	#21
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	There is no Mr or Mrs on the envelope, my other BIl's name was Scott not really a gal's name. I don't think anyone did anything on purpose. Its just weird and without telling any of my sisters I thought the best way to fix the "faux pas" was to re send invitations with the correct names. If only certain men and certain women are invited [very odd] I don't want to go. Don't think that is the case. I will let you all know if my sister gets an answer from her DIl's sister. __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

02-27-2011, 08:15 PM	#25
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	Formality would have required MISS, MS, MRS or MR. None of the invitations included a prefacing title. If I go my 2 sisters that were technically not invited will be pissed. They claim they were not invited so not going. If I don't go my other sister that is the MIL will be pissed. Its only a big deal in the architecture of my dysfunctional family. __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

02-27-2011, 08:22 PM	#26
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	get yer 2 sisters that got snubbed Drunk and crash the party !!!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

02-27-2011, 10:38 PM	#29
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	I wouldn't call the one whose husband died in Sept a drama queen ...the other? Yah probably. Should I go? Maybe but I have a great excuse should I need it! We started with 55 calves to be born and we have 51 to go. __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

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