Death/Funeral Etiquette Advice, please

[monster]

Thanks all.

Yeah, Thor and "Fred" are pretty close. I'm not a huge fan of the relationship, but Fred has had a helluva lot to deal with in his short life, so no suprise he's a little disruptive (dad was given 4 weeks two years ago then went on an experimental drug, apparently -we didn't know them then , but I knew of them because I know everything)

And yes, I know funerals are for the survivors. that's the only reason I feel like sorta we oughta. As for intruding on Fred's grief, he was in school today, happy as Larry, don't think it's hit home yet. Maybe it will tomorrow. Maybe it'll take month or years. But will he feel better for Thor being there? Maybe. What bad can happen if we go? Thor could get more scared, I guess. I talked to him a little more since I posted. He says he's nervoud, but is not sure what of and I don't think it's of us dying. I think maybe he feels like me -not sure what to expect.