Amsterdam March 2010

[squirell nutkin]

Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

...but I now realise that it wouldn't work. That kind of attention would promote an emotional response in women and we'd have weeping and wailing when they realised it was all done for money.

I think that you've just hit upon job security: repeat, loyal customers. For those with the coin they could have an exclusive contract. Others would have to make due knowing that Wednesdays would be "their day" and the rest of the week they'd have to share.

Did thinking about the questions that were posed to you take any of the shine off the experience for you?

I visited Amsterdam about 10 years ago and had Dutch friends as guides. We took a compulsory stroll through the Red Light district and I had a paradigm altering experience.

As we walked past one window I saw a woman sitting there who was my ideal "type" (apart from being a hooker) and we caught eyes for a moment. She gave me a look that I've never, ever gotten from anyone in my life. She looked at me with such a look of admiration and thrill at seeing me that was absolutely sincere. As if she'd spent her whole life hooking just so that someday she'd meet me, the most important man in the world. The man she could worship and adore. And then she smiled and it was a warm, friendly, long lost pal kind of smile, not one of those slutty sneers that are supposed to be sexy. This woman looked wholesome, and in retrospect, I think that was her angle, she was dressed all in white lingerie. Probably a virgin bride thing, but whatever.

My Dutch friend turned to me jokingly and said "She had the eye for you."

It was then that I realized the allure of professional sex, it was about more than getting laid, it was about buying the fantasy, whatever it might be. She was selling "You are the most important man in the world."

I asked our Dutch host if women had a red light district for themselves, with men in the window. She looked at me amusedly and said, "No, anytime we want sex we can get it for free."