Oldest son reaching out

Jaydaan · 01-03-2010, 03:53 PM

Oh I have no illusions this will be an easy fix. I expect slip ups, I expect some failures.... but I am hoping it will be all little things that we can deal with one thing at a time. Instead of like before when the snowball kept getting bigger and bigger. We are hoping that because he *has* hit rock bottom, he will never want to be there again. That and knowing we kicked him out before, and can do so again might help too. It will devastate me, but... I can do it.

We are hoping to get him the help he needs to get a place near us, introduce him to some people who will be there for him and won't get him into trouble and get his self esteem up to the point where he likes himself. This week we are simply getting used to the house rules (we all sat down and discussed what they were, and how to go about them) Tomorrow we will go about getting his application for health care (second piece of ID) an appointment for Social services (help pay for room and board (maybe) and then we will go from there.

xoxoxoBruce · 01-03-2010, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaydaan

We are hoping that because he *has* hit rock bottom, he will never want to be there again.

And hopefully realizes the people he thought were cool, and had found a better way, aren't and didn't. Then there's no temptation to seek out the same sort of friends.

Sounds to me like you've got just the right (and unusual) balance of smart and compassionate.

Madman · 01-04-2010, 03:53 PM

I really hope it works out for you and your son Jaydaan. It really sucks when you have a kid that disappears and refuses to communicate with you.

I agree... compassion and brains have you.

01-03-2010, 03:53 PM	#1
Jaydaan Knight of the Oval-Shaped Conference Table Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Vernon, BC, Canada Posts: 378	Oh I have no illusions this will be an easy fix. I expect slip ups, I expect some failures.... but I am hoping it will be all little things that we can deal with one thing at a time. Instead of like before when the snowball kept getting bigger and bigger. We are hoping that because he has hit rock bottom, he will never want to be there again. That and knowing we kicked him out before, and can do so again might help too. It will devastate me, but... I can do it. We are hoping to get him the help he needs to get a place near us, introduce him to some people who will be there for him and won't get him into trouble and get his self esteem up to the point where he likes himself. This week we are simply getting used to the house rules (we all sat down and discussed what they were, and how to go about them) Tomorrow we will go about getting his application for health care (second piece of ID) an appointment for Social services (help pay for room and board (maybe) and then we will go from there.

01-04-2010, 03:53 PM	#3
Madman has left the building. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 455	I really hope it works out for you and your son Jaydaan. It really sucks when you have a kid that disappears and refuses to communicate with you. I agree... compassion and brains have you.

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