Please excuse my emotional distance this week

[hot_pastrami]

I just hope you're not translating "divorce" to "failure," Tony. Judging from your description of the marraige, your life will only improve once the cheese-grater-to-the-brain effects are past. In that sense, this is not failure at all, rather it is the most significant progress toward bettering your life you've seen in a while. You'll have to take a few bites of the shit sandwich occasionally, but most real progress is hard-won.

I have had several friends who have been in unrewarding relationships and marraiges... not necessarily the fault of either party. Even from the outside I can see this. I make it a point never to poison the relationships, but when the relationship dies of natural causes, I quietly celebrate for the friend whose life is about to improve.