Please excuse my emotional distance this week

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Originally posted by OnyxCougar
I don't think dating so soon is a good idea. Putting yourself out there when you aren't whole isn't fair for you or the women you may speak to.

Depending on the person, and the amount of damage already being borne, sometimes a little bit of emergency repair is needed before one can honestly evaluate and then do the necessary work to get one's head in order for a committed relationship.

Dating allows you to do that. The fact that someone shows interest in you, and perhaps will agree to some intimate contact in the course of said dating, can be a tremendous bolster to a damaged ego and/or broken heart. Sure, it is only temporary, but until you can have some practical demonstration of your inherent desireability (for some reason, people seem to base a large part of their self worth on feedback from others), it is really difficult to have the proper balance of emotions and insight needed to take larger steps toward a healthy head and heart.

Summary? Getting laid can really pick up your spirits and make you feel like a man again after you've been dumped.