Suicide and Jail: Pass me the 409.

[OnyxCougar]

OK, I didn't want to get started, but I'm riled, now.

1) Mother was working a fulltime and part time job.

2) Mother told the boy to take a freaking shower. Did he do it? What is she supposed to do? Tie him up and throw him in there? Spank him? Not feed him until he does? And when is she supposed to do this when she's hardly home?

3) 12 year old boys don't generally take the best care of themselves. That comes later when they realize what girls are and what they have to do to get one.

4) At 12 years old, I was bullied incessantly, and it continued until I finally fought back and put a girl in the hospital when I was 18, in my senior year. Kids are cruel, and we all learn to survive in that world (because it IS a separate world) as best we can. The child did not WANT to be clean. Period. So, making that choice, he gets picked on.

5) NOWHERE did it say in that article that the child did not have access to or was denied the essentials of good hygiene. There may have been dirty laundry, dirty dishes, papers and general stuff everywhere, but how that stops a 12 year old from taking a shower so that the kids don't pick on him is beyond me.

6) If anything, the mother should be blamed for letting him have knives in his closet and not telling the authorites when there was a problem. She worked at the school for shit's sake! He would SOIL himself to keep from going to school? Why wasn't this addressed at the school administration level? No, you can't watch all of the children all of the time, but you can watch MOST of them MOST of the time they're on your property. This wasn't isolated bullying, it was persistant and ONGOING.

7) How they can charge her with assisting a suicide? Why not charge the bullies with assisting the suicide???
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Justin had been misbehaving and being passive-agressive for months. I don't remember the exact circumstances now, but I ended up giving him a spanking. I was not yelling and screaming and pissed. I calmly discussed it with him before hand, he knew why he was getting it, and while he didn't agree with the type of punishment (obviously), he did agree that he should be punished, and that all the other punishments I had tried in the previous YEAR were not working. I used a belt on his underwear-clad ass, three swats. I "missed" on the third swat, and got his upper thighs. It left welts.

Justin, listening to all the fuckwads at school that hated him anyway, decided he would tell his "counselor" at school that I "beat" him. The counselor called the police, and I get a phone call at work from Child Protective Services telling me that they have Justin AND Bryan (who attended a different school) in custody at the local shelter.

I had to leave work, (which I got written up for) and go down to CPS, and explain to them why my son had a red mark on his upper thighs. I told them I had given him a spanking with the belt, and I missed on the last swat, then asked why they had taken BOTH of my children out of school. They have the authority to speak to, question, interrogate, and remove any and all children from school WITHOUT parental knowledge and consent. And the school has to let them do it.

I got to take the boys home after promising to seek "Anger Management" and "Parenting" classes, even though I advised them that Justin was already undergoing psychiatric therapy, and I had been discussing the situation with his therapist.

Justin did NOT tell his counselor that it had been OVER a year since his last spanking, and that he did, indeed screw up, and that NOTHING else that I did changed his behavior.

He also did not realize that by making the statements in the way that he did, to the people he did, put him AND his brother in danger of going to foster care and me going to jail. He had NO idea.

Finally, after researching it on the internet, and realizing there was nothing I could do to prevent CPS from coming in and "following up" with Justin without speaking to me first, I made arrangements to pull my boys out of school and start home teaching. Once the administrators got wind of that, suddenly I was getting phone calls when Justin was pulled out of class for a "followup" meeting with the putz that called himself his "worker", who was basically LEADING Justin into telling him something he could use against me. Bryan, being special ed, was a different case, they could not speak to him without an administrator present and the parent notified.

Justin, after I made him realize what was going on, refused to say anything to the guy, except one sentence: 'I have the right to have my mother present at this meeting.' That's all he would say. After three meetings of that, the worker gave up and "closed" our "case". Apperantly he wasn't interested in Justin's answers if I was there to hear the questions.

To have the MOTHER charged with assisting her son's suicide is LUDICROUS.

Edit: grammer and CPS story.