What's upsetting you today? - Page 278

DanaC · 06-13-2009, 08:58 AM

If you want to post it to me, I may be able to sign it for you. As long as we both do recorded delivery. I think a ward councillor might count even though I am not a professional. Worth checking out anyway.

And if when you;ve checked it turns out I can, then I promise promise promise not to be shit on posting it back.

[eta] Ach damn. Cancel that offer. I think it has to be someone who holds a current passport. I don't so, that's me out.

Trilby · 06-13-2009, 09:23 AM

so far, nuthin'.

Why? what's upsetting you?

monster · 06-13-2009, 01:12 PM

no-one is coming to my yard sale and it's about to rain on me

Shawnee123 · 06-13-2009, 02:08 PM

Awwww, monster...whatcha got? I need a small square coffee table.

Ibby · 06-13-2009, 02:13 PM

Why does chloe have to get so fucking pissed and moody every single damn time i do a SINGLE thing that doesnt involve her? even when shes invited and ive been planning it for weeks? even when i fucking spent the night at her house the night before? why does she have to be a part of EVERYTHING I EVER DO? why is everything in the world my fault? and why am i so drunk/where did all my money go? fml man.

Shawnee123 · 06-13-2009, 02:15 PM

Because she's young.

Dude, are you still partying for graduation?

Sundae · 06-13-2009, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

... the woman refused, so the only way your mum could let you know she was trying to help, trying to do a good thing, was to tell you she refused.
But telling you that, might have caused you to ask the woman why and your Mum knowing what the woman would say, decided it would be better hearing it from her.

Mum could quite easily have backed off telling me the why is so much detail. In fact she could just have said D doesn't let any of her family sign passports and left it at that. Or she could have left it at the fact that D thinks my reasons for going to Amsterdam are suspect. She really didn't have to go into the fact that D thinks I am faking depression and drag things like my hair colour and weight loss into it.

I backed off on the accusations I made, because as I said it was the hurt talking.
However I do get every day a comment about my hair. Or her wishing she could get me a volunteer job. Or asking whether I have heard from the council re housing. So I made unfair assumptions, but it didn't come completely out of left field.

Also this isn't a one-off. Throughout my life, Mum has seen fit to tell me negative things people said about me. Or add a negative spin to positive things. I know it's her brand of tough love, her way of keeping me in line so I have an easier life. But all it does is knock me back, affect my self esteem and upset me.

Which makes it harder to deal with rather than easier.
But as I'm an adult now I can express myself and vent my anger and hopefully bounce back quicker. That's why I appreciate this place so much.

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Originally Posted by DanaC

If you want to post it to me, I may be able to sign it for you.

I've checked the details and you can sign for me! Yay! Thanks hon.
I have to get the money together still - I'm in very early planning stage at present. But it helps to know there is another option.

xoxoxoBruce · 06-13-2009, 03:16 PM

Sure, you're obviously in the thick of it, and privy to much more than the snippets we hear. I just wanted to caution you not to assume nastiness that could possibly be explained by stupidity.

I have to keep reminding myself, my mother grew up in a whole different world, shaped by my grandparents who might as well grown up on another planet.

SteveDallas · 06-13-2009, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Ibram

Why does chloe have to get so fucking pissed and moody every single damn time i do a SINGLE thing that doesnt involve her? even when shes invited and ive been planning it for weeks? even when i fucking spent the night at her house the night before? why does she have to be a part of EVERYTHING I EVER DO? why is everything in the world my fault? and why am i so drunk/where did all my money go? fml man.

Well, part of it is you're just getting older and finding out more of what has some of us geezers so jaded.

But, some people are just like this. When they're "in a relationship" (in whatever terms) they expect to do everything with their partner and vice versa. Depending on how cynical one is, one might think that she doesn't trust you and is trying to control/manipulate you and keep her eye on you at all times;

or one might think that she genuinely is so infatuated with you that she can't imagine WANTING to go do something without you... and if you want to go off without her, that means you must hate her or something.

(I'm deliberately not telling you what to actually do about it because, well, I don't have a clue. My solution was to a) not realize it was happening, then b) pretend it wasn't happening, and then finally c) to have it brought to such a ridiculous public confrontation that the only sensible thing for me to do was--literally--walk away.)

monster · 06-13-2009, 06:57 PM

Well what a poopy yard sale. I had the most stuff ever, the best organized ever and hardly anyone came. It didn't even rain much after 9, but it was overcast and threatening all day. Last week was beautiful, but i was busy -the woman across the road had a sale and hardly had anything with clothes dumped in tubs and loads of punters came by. I did take $100 from dribs and drabs -I think the most expensive thing I sold was a kid's bike for $7. I did get rid of two worn out umbrella strollers with raincovers and a parasol that were taing up space. For $3 total. Ah well. We're contemplating leaving it virtually set up in the garage so i can drag it out one afternoon if the conditions are good, and going all American -leaving the cars on the drive and the crap in the garage

Crimson Ghost · 06-13-2009, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ibram

Why does chloe have to get so fucking pissed and moody every single damn time i do a SINGLE thing that doesnt involve her? even when shes invited and ive been planning it for weeks? even when i fucking spent the night at her house the night before? why does she have to be a part of EVERYTHING I EVER DO? why is everything in the world my fault? and why am i so drunk/where did all my money go? fml man.

Welcome to adulthood...

jinx · 06-13-2009, 07:14 PM

That blows monster. Did you advertise at all?

monster · 06-13-2009, 07:16 PM

With signs outside and at the entrance to the neighbothood the day before and during. Usually sufficient.

ZenGum · 06-13-2009, 09:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ibram

Why does chloe have to get so fucking pissed and moody every single damn time i do a SINGLE thing that doesnt involve her? even when shes invited and ive been planning it for weeks? even when i fucking spent the night at her house the night before? why does she have to be a part of EVERYTHING I EVER DO? why is everything in the world my fault? and why am i so drunk/where did all my money go? fml man.

Ahem.

Quote:

"And so the young man passes out of his original nature, which was trained in the school of necessity, into the freedom and libertinism of useless and unnecessary pleasures."
-Plato's Republic, Book VIII

Oh and what Crimson Ghost said.

They're all crazy. Some are clingy-needy crazy and some are nasty-mean crazy. Take your pick. Or call Sheldon.

Shawnee123 · 06-13-2009, 10:07 PM

Grrrr...teach your children well. Not all women are needy. Ibby, she's just young and hasn't realized how annoying it is. Explain it to her. Nicely.

06-13-2009, 09:23 AM	#4157
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	so far, nuthin'. Why? what's upsetting you? __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

06-13-2009, 01:12 PM	#4158
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	no-one is coming to my yard sale and it's about to rain on me __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

06-13-2009, 02:08 PM	#4159
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Awwww, monster...whatcha got? I need a small square coffee table. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

06-13-2009, 02:13 PM	#4160
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Why does chloe have to get so fucking pissed and moody every single damn time i do a SINGLE thing that doesnt involve her? even when shes invited and ive been planning it for weeks? even when i fucking spent the night at her house the night before? why does she have to be a part of EVERYTHING I EVER DO? why is everything in the world my fault? and why am i so drunk/where did all my money go? fml man. __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

06-13-2009, 02:15 PM	#4161
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Because she's young. Dude, are you still partying for graduation? __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

06-13-2009, 03:16 PM	#4163
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Sure, you're obviously in the thick of it, and privy to much more than the snippets we hear. I just wanted to caution you not to assume nastiness that could possibly be explained by stupidity. I have to keep reminding myself, my mother grew up in a whole different world, shaped by my grandparents who might as well grown up on another planet. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

06-13-2009, 06:57 PM	#4165
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Well what a poopy yard sale. I had the most stuff ever, the best organized ever and hardly anyone came. It didn't even rain much after 9, but it was overcast and threatening all day. Last week was beautiful, but i was busy -the woman across the road had a sale and hardly had anything with clothes dumped in tubs and loads of punters came by. I did take $100 from dribs and drabs -I think the most expensive thing I sold was a kid's bike for $7. I did get rid of two worn out umbrella strollers with raincovers and a parasol that were taing up space. For $3 total. Ah well. We're contemplating leaving it virtually set up in the garage so i can drag it out one afternoon if the conditions are good, and going all American -leaving the cars on the drive and the crap in the garage __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

06-13-2009, 07:14 PM	#4167
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	That blows monster. Did you advertise at all? __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

06-13-2009, 07:16 PM	#4168
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	With signs outside and at the entrance to the neighbothood the day before and during. Usually sufficient. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

06-13-2009, 10:07 PM	#4170
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Grrrr...teach your children well. Not all women are needy. Ibby, she's just young and hasn't realized how annoying it is. Explain it to her. Nicely. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

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