The 24 hour engagement.

[disenchanted]

I've not heard anything from her.

I'm currently working on the "Grand Unified Theory of WTF? What Happened", and I think my current working model is this:

Her parents' relationship is screwed up. Her mother dealt with it by being super-religious, her father dealt with it by starting a different family. Even though she's getting close to 30, her longest romantic relationship before this one was six months. As much as she's got herself convinced that she understands everything, I'm of the mind that there's some things you just can't read from books, you've got to live them.

Not that I'm any sort of expert, but it's one thing to read about love and another to experience it.

So the big theory right now is this: She didn't understand how the relationship would change once she broached the idea of being chaste. So while I was thinking we were working towards one thing, I became "just a friend" in her mind. So faced with the solidity of a proposal, she freaks out thinking about being committed to "just a friend", and retreats. Her primary source of advice being her mother (who hasn't really had much in the way of adult relationships outside of being committed to her religious belief) and her divorced friends, I'm sure it's been tilted towards not actually communicating.

But I don't know, not having heard anything, I'm filling in with speculation.

For me, I started the countdown clock. I'm going to be a weird guy for a bit, and maybe at the end of the summer I'll think about dating again. It's a good time for me to clean my own house.

-dis

[classicman]

Originally Posted by disenchanted

I've not heard anything from her.
-dis

I think the silence is deafening actually. She is saying an awful lot by not saying anything. If she really cared would she leave you hanging in some sort of sick limbo like this for all this time? Would she let you dangle there knowing how you feel?
I think she is clearly saying that she doesn't care enough to cut you loose and allow you to heal and move on.
Thats what I hear, but as my tag line says...
"Hey, my views aren't popular, they're just mine."

[Beestie]

Originally Posted by disenchanted

I've not heard anything from her.

Lucky you. She must have found some other guy willing to let her drag him face down through the mud.

For some girls, that's their idea of a relationship.