How long have you been with your current "significant other"?

monster · 04-10-2009, 09:56 PM

some of us are young have have been with their SOs for a year and it feels like a lifetime, and some are old and their three years still qualifies as a new relationship. Some have been maried forever, some are almost professionally single..... So regardless of how long it feels (although please feel free to post and explain) how long have you been together? ...and I'll leave the definition of "significant other" to you too. If they're significant to you, they count, even if it's your mother

dar512 · 04-10-2009, 10:02 PM

Mrs. dar and I have been together 23.5 years (22 years of marriage plus 1.5 years dating). Seems like just yesterday...

monster · 04-10-2009, 10:03 PM

beest and I have been together for longer that we haven't been together -we met just before I turned 19 and this year I will turn 39. Wow, I still don't even feel 20, never mind feeling like we've been together that long!

glatt · 04-10-2009, 10:04 PM

Been with her for over 17 years, married for 15 and a half of them.

monster · 04-10-2009, 10:06 PM

did Mrs Dar take your last name, Dar? and Glatt?

monster · 04-10-2009, 10:08 PM

I took beest's last name because we wanted the same name, hated mine, didn't mind his and couldn;t find anything original we liked. In UK at the time, it was still prety much the norm for women to change their name, but frowned on in academic circles if you had already been published.

glatt · 04-10-2009, 10:13 PM

I certainly didn't expect her (and didn't ask her) to change her name to mine, but was pleased and flattered when she chose to. She did this thing where she kept her middle name, added her maiden name as a second middle name and then took my name as her last name. And then she insisted on using all four names for all her paperwork and on the job. It confused everybody. So she eventually sort of dropped her original middle name and now follows the traditional First name, Maiden Name, Last Name format.

monster · 04-10-2009, 10:32 PM

four names is a sod for American paperwork. our kids all have 4 names for funsies (not one of them my maiden name) but there's no such standard format in the UK. and if there were, we'd probably give them the extra name for the hellof it. I'd gladly lose my given middle name, though -it's Jane.

Juniper · 04-10-2009, 10:52 PM

We met Jan 9, 1990. I moved in with him March 23, 1990. We married on June 26, 1993. Damn, that was a long time ago.

I didn't like my maiden name. I don't care for my married name either (it's a German name and everyone gets it wrong) but I had to pick one. Oh well!

Crimson Ghost · 04-10-2009, 10:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt

Been with her for over 17 years, married for 15 and a half of them.

Same here.

Just out of curiosity, what day were you married?

October 23, 1993.
I wanted October 31, but the pastor refused.

Alluvial · 04-10-2009, 11:02 PM

I've only been married five years, been together 10. Second marriage for him, third for me.

monster · 04-10-2009, 11:26 PM

oh look! the poll is full of old married people and is taking on that body shape!

maybe all the newly-matcheds are still dating or having sex on a friday night

We wanted to get married on friday 13th, but the celebrant was alreasy booked so we went with the 20th.

Crimson Ghost · 04-10-2009, 11:57 PM

Friday 13th?

Cool.

Please tell me you were planning on wearing hockey masks.

glatt · 04-11-2009, 12:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Crimson Ghost

Same here.

Just out of curiosity, what day were you married?

a month before you. Sept 25th

monster · 04-11-2009, 12:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Crimson Ghost

Friday 13th?

Cool.

Please tell me you were planning on wearing hockey masks.

no, but I wore a black and purple dress...

View Poll Results: How long have you been with your Significant Other?
Single all the way, baby	3	4.84%
Single at the moment	6	9.68%
Less than 3 months	0	0%
3-6 months	0	0%
6 monthe - 1 year	1	1.61%
1-3 years	7	11.29%
3-5 years	4	6.45%
5-10 years	11	17.74%
10-20 years	21	33.87%
20-30 years	7	11.29%
>30 years	2	3.23%
Voters: 62. You may not vote on this poll

04-10-2009, 09:56 PM	#1
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	How long have you been with your current "significant other"? some of us are young have have been with their SOs for a year and it feels like a lifetime, and some are old and their three years still qualifies as a new relationship. Some have been maried forever, some are almost professionally single..... So regardless of how long it feels (although please feel free to post and explain) how long have you been together? ...and I'll leave the definition of "significant other" to you too. If they're significant to you, they count, even if it's your mother __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-10-2009, 10:02 PM	#2
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	Mrs. dar and I have been together 23.5 years (22 years of marriage plus 1.5 years dating). Seems like just yesterday... __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

04-10-2009, 10:03 PM	#3
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	beest and I have been together for longer that we haven't been together -we met just before I turned 19 and this year I will turn 39. Wow, I still don't even feel 20, never mind feeling like we've been together that long! __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-10-2009, 10:06 PM	#5
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	did Mrs Dar take your last name, Dar? and Glatt? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-10-2009, 10:04 PM	#4
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Been with her for over 17 years, married for 15 and a half of them.

04-10-2009, 10:08 PM	#6
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I took beest's last name because we wanted the same name, hated mine, didn't mind his and couldn;t find anything original we liked. In UK at the time, it was still prety much the norm for women to change their name, but frowned on in academic circles if you had already been published. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-10-2009, 10:13 PM	#7
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I certainly didn't expect her (and didn't ask her) to change her name to mine, but was pleased and flattered when she chose to. She did this thing where she kept her middle name, added her maiden name as a second middle name and then took my name as her last name. And then she insisted on using all four names for all her paperwork and on the job. It confused everybody. So she eventually sort of dropped her original middle name and now follows the traditional First name, Maiden Name, Last Name format.

04-10-2009, 10:32 PM	#8
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	four names is a sod for American paperwork. our kids all have 4 names for funsies (not one of them my maiden name) but there's no such standard format in the UK. and if there were, we'd probably give them the extra name for the hellof it. I'd gladly lose my given middle name, though -it's Jane. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-10-2009, 10:52 PM	#9
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	We met Jan 9, 1990. I moved in with him March 23, 1990. We married on June 26, 1993. Damn, that was a long time ago. I didn't like my maiden name. I don't care for my married name either (it's a German name and everyone gets it wrong) but I had to pick one. Oh well!

04-10-2009, 11:02 PM	#11
Alluvial Phenomenologist Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Central Mississippi Posts: 270	I've only been married five years, been together 10. Second marriage for him, third for me.

04-10-2009, 11:26 PM	#12
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	oh look! the poll is full of old married people and is taking on that body shape! maybe all the newly-matcheds are still dating or having sex on a friday night We wanted to get married on friday 13th, but the celebrant was alreasy booked so we went with the 20th. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-10-2009, 11:57 PM	#13
Crimson Ghost Larger than life and twice as ugly. Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 5,264	Friday 13th? Cool. Please tell me you were planning on wearing hockey masks. __________________ We must all go through a rite of passage. It must be physical, it must be painful, and it must leave a mark. I have no knowledge of the events which you are describing, and if I did have knowledge of them, I would be unable to discuss them with you now or at any future period. Don't waste your time always searching for those wasted years

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