True Friends

[Hoof Hearted]

I wouldn't wait for a calm/quiet period to discuss it at all. Why take a nice moment and ruin it? ...because she (if she is a true drama-llama) will feel she is being unjustly attacked and will react negatively.

Nope.
Toss it right back at her the very next time she snarks-off at you.
Ask her why she would say something like that to you?
Or tell her (with a smile on your face and in your voice) that was a lovely thing to say and then leave her company immediately.

If you show her no reaction, it is reinforcing her belief that her behavior is acceptable and she will escalate it, and never moderate it, if you don't let her know it is not acceptable.
If she never contacts you again...count yourself lucky.


*story*
I had a BF who got angry at me for something I had no control over.
I was to drop him off to fish at a river with his brother for two hours and I was going to the stable to ride my horse. After my ride, I was to return to the river to pick him and his brother up at the agreed upon time.
No cell phones.
BF's fishing pole broke after the first few casts, but by the time he walked to the little bait store to use the pay phone, I had already left the stable on my horse and was unreachable. When I returned from my relaxing ride, he was fuming and took it out on me verbally, though I had no control over what had happened. He told me to: 'not even think about staying overnight with him'.
I dropped him and his brother off, didn't say a word and drove home. I didn't make any effort to contact him. After about three days, he called me and asked why I hadn't been around, and I reminded him that I was doing what he last told me to do. He was silent as he thought about that. I didn't help him or make it easier for him to apologize to me. But he did apologize.

Oh, how I wish I had just stayed "gone". I would not have suffered further at his whims, though I am glad of the opportunity to appreciate my husband because of that evil-tempered BF.

When people show you who they are...believe them.
This girl is showing you who she is. Are you going to believe her?