Lover and/or Best Friend?

[Pooka]

I have very close female friends some might consider Best friends It is so important to have a good circle of friends your own gender. I didn't know just how important until my ex and I split. I also have a friend Flint and I consider our "Best Friend" ... I love him as much as it is possible to love a man and yet have no sexual interest in him... he is totally like a brother to us both... we even named our daughter after him, but I would have to say without a doubt that my absolute best friend is Flint. I wouldn't want it any other way. It makes life so much easier. We have no secrets from eachother... none intentially anyway. He is always the first person I want to share anything with and the first person I go to when I need comforting. He is consistantly there for me... either for fun, loving or just an ear. Flint is my favorite person... next to our kids of course. I'd rather hang out with him than do just about anything else regardless what we end up doing... or not doing. That I get to end my day with him and have amazing sex just makes it all that much more amazing.

I don't think you HAVE to be best friends to have a good romantic relationship, but if it is going to be a long term situation it I think you at least need to be friends. Sex is wonderful, but there is so much more to share.