Not owning up... and how to address the upset

[Cicero]

It is also possible that she took the quilting stuff out looking for your stuff, and thinks that the bag with your stuff, is actually hers. After years our memories get all screwed up and it is quite possible that she remembers little pieces of fabric as hers and might have already manufactured a stupid memory attached to the pieces that are used. Just get your stuff back. When I see people with my stuff, using it, I always say something immediately.

Don't let a misunderstanding make you get all shitty. Talk about it immediately. Her memoories of the articles in question, might be screwed up. Say something before she uses even more pieces. She might be naively thinking certain rags are hers.

Go to the house, look for the items out somewhere and say, hey. Those totally look like my pieces, where is the rest of what was in that bag? Explain why those are your pieces if need be.

[Pooka]

Originally Posted by Cicero

It is also possible that she took the quilting stuff out looking for your stuff, and thinks that the bag with your stuff, is actually hers. After years our memories get all screwed up and it is quite possible that she remembers little pieces of fabric as hers and might have already manufactured a stupid memory attached to the pieces that are used. Just get your stuff back. When I see people with my stuff, using it, I always say something immediately.

Don't let a misunderstanding make you get all shitty. Talk about it immediately.

No she knew exactly what they were ... we had discussed them several times. And they are of the same material that she returned to me... just with pockets. Had she admitted she used them I would have offered to PAY her for her work.

It is HIGHLY doubtful that she would be making a gift of them for me... highly doubtful. It is a possibility... but such a VERY small one.

The problem is ... knowing she lied ... there is no nice way to approach the subject... I could ask Flint to approach her, but he dosn't want to get involved.