Declarations for the good of mankind

[BrianR]

Originally Posted by Treasenuak

Brian, my trauma was living for two years with a man who physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually abused me every single day I was with him. Not only do I have PTSD from it, I have a dissociative identity disorder as well (aka, I developed a split personality)

May I ask why you remained with the jerk or didn't kill him in his sleep? Animals like that (I refuse to call them 'men') should be put down. Women are NOT helpless. No, I am not calling you culpable. But I personally would either walk on or kill an abusive partner, regardless of my feelings for them. There are resources for battered women including anonymous shelters, legal help with property or children etc. Why? Why put up with abuse of any kind? What are you doing about your situation now?

Please don't tell me medication. I have a personal revulsion against anyone with a 'psy' in his/her title, but will concede that they can help some people who need to air their problems. I rarely agree with medication as a means of treatment long term. All it does is mask problems and cover up feelings.

People can handle stress. Some need help learning to cope but all can do it. I've been stressed more than many, tried to deal with well-meaning "professionals" who caused more harm than good and ultimately discovered that they cannot fix anything they can't medicate away and drugs are nearly always their first reaction.

"When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail." Drugs are all counselors, psychiatrists and social workers have that does anything concrete from the patient's view. Nearly everyone I know that takes some form of drug to "cope" has been on that drug long term and will remain so because they see it as an easy fix to a complicated problem that they have to work out, ultimately, on their own and that scares them. So they retreat to the safety of a pill.

My own problems were actually identified by a friend who had the same problem and recognised the symptoms. Once I knew the identity of my enemy, I worked out a plan to get back to normal and executed it. Yes, I talked to her and used some of her own strategies but not all worked for me, they were hers alone. I even talked to the right "professionals" and they confirmed my diagnosis.

Guess what the first thing they offered to me was? Yep, pills. I declined and now I'm fine without their help.

Would you like to talk to me sometime and I'll offer help if you want it. I promise, no slapping.

Brian