Since You All Give Such Good Advice -- Parenting Question

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All women who love men must know: men love porn. If you think your man is different, you are wrong. Male sexual response is highly visual. It's just a fact of life.

Many men are freaked out by the idea that their woman might find out they love porn. There are standard guilt issues involved. So checking it out while the gal's not there might be a standard practice. In fact it may only be effective under those conditions.

And that kind of guilt might really complicate any kind of confrontation. Easy to imagine that discussion going wrong from the start.

I'm not gonna say I know from parenting, but I'd say there should be a standard revision of a speech on setting appropriate limits for one's self and how to respond to various people (familiar or no, trusted or no) trying to get around those limits. The girls have to learn to respond not only to a threat that mom sees, but the ones she doesn't see as well.